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Girl / Fiance Keeps going to Internet Fantasy sites, sexual stuff, Meeting men, Should I end it?

Over the past year, I have discovered that my girlfriend has been going overboard with these internet sleazy sites. We have been together for 4 years, I would have proposed to her last year but I found out, in the midst of ring shopping, I found out she had been carrying on a " Online Relationship" With a man from oversea's. She had exchanged photos with, and allowed this man to talk **** about me , without defending me. When I found this out, I demanded she get help, Reading the conversations really scared me because I knew she was either living a lie with me or online. I told her I would pay for therapy, she refused out of embarrassment, and promised me she would never speak to another person online again. After that incident, I decided to put the proposal on hold for a year, to see how things panned out. She did really good for the first 5 or 6 months, she never even got on her computer. Then, her parents bought us a new Desktop for the office. Late nights she was going to " Check her email" I gave her her privacy. Well a few days ago, I went on the desktop while she was at work. I again was ready to propose but wanted to be sure things were ok. I go on her email, Find all these weird emails from stuff like NAUGHTYGUYSWEBCAM, and EROTICCAMXXX. I thought " oh god " Then I go on her Messenger. Again I'm blown away, this time , I discover she has re-connected with the guy from before, who she promised she would never speak to again. On top of that, she has a new interest apparently. I clicked on Chat History / Webcam History. And Discover she has had Video Chat with this guy over 50+ Times in the last 3 months. My heart sank. Also, I have learned this guy is 22 years old! She is 41. She lied and told him she's 28 years old. I just don't know what to do at this point. I can't believe she would do this again after the last time this happened. It's like she's sick in the head or something.. I can see that she usually starts Web Caming him Around 4am, some of their sessions last for 2 and 3 hours! I'm devastated. In all 5 years we have been a couple, I have never once cheated on her, and I could have cheated but Stayed faithful. Do you think it's time for me to end this? Because I truly believe there is no hope for us. I can't ask her never to touch a computer again. And I refuse to share my wife or be involved with some Internet slut.

Public Comments

1. How can you mistake a 41 year old for 28?
2. Honestly, leave. Doesn't look like she'll change her ways any time soon...
3. That is the key to understanding,,,that you can't believe it..because if you did, then you could make the right choice yourself. Don't be devastated over the desperate need for her to degrade herself with the decision to ignore love and commitment for some strange perverted Obsession...no thank her for being so honest in showing you who she really is and leave her.
4. I never believe the day would come... When a man would find out that there women is addicted to onlinesex. Either way man. I say dump her. You don't deserve it and wtf is Wrong with her. She's 41. You deserve better. Not many man are faithful now adays and I'm one. SO dont worry. You'll find someone who will cherish you. Peace
5. I think you've already made up your mind to leave her. You've given her a chance and she relapsed. I think you're absolutely in the right on this one.
6. "Wow" is what I said when I read that. It makes no sense that this woman whom you have been so patient and kind with, giving her a second chance, would treat you in this way. She doesn't deserve you, nor do you deserve to have a woman who would sneak around and dishonor you in such a way. You sound like a wonderful, caring partner. The fact that you offered her counseling the first time you caught her speaks to your character and love for her, and your willingness to work to make things work. The fact that she would throw all that away blows my mind. YOU are the kind of man women hope & pray for, look for, lament that they cannot find, and she had one in her bed and yet...he wasn't good enough for her?! You deserve SO MUCH BETTER. I think you are correct in saying there is no hope for you two. It's bad enough that she did it the first time...but you forgave her and gave her a second chance...but for her to do it again...is really unforgivable. Best of luck to you--I hope you find someone who is all that you ever dreamed of and more. Everyone deserves to have a partner who adores, cherishes and enjoys being with them...and couldn't imagine living without that other person. When you have truly found that, it wouldn't matter who or what was on the computer...because SHE would not be there checking it out.