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Do you think this sounds like my boyfriend was about to say I love you?

I was talking with my boyfriend he asked what I wanted from him so I was listing things such as honesty, loyalty etc. In a shaky voice he asked if I wanted love. I said of course that's what I want over time isn't that what you want. He said yes, we both want it and are scared to give it to the other. Do you think he was trying to say he was scared to tell me that he loves me? Should I have told him that I love him or does it sound like it's something he doesn't feel yet and is scared of? We're in our 30s and im deeply in love but frustrated he hasnt told me yet so i can tell him too.

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1. People should express their love when they are ready; not when they feel they have to. Relax and stop worrying about it. If it is real, you will know.
2. Do not ever go under assumptions in relationships, that just breeds uncertainty and often leads to problems. You just have to tell him that you love him (or don't love him) and directly ask him if he feels the same. If you can't get the guts to speak honestly and openly to one another, then your relationship is not worth keeping, at least in my opinion. Best of luck!
3. yes, I think so....
4. Well his question does show that he wanted to confirm if you too were looking for love or not. He seems scared probably because he doesn't want to sound premature by telling you 'I love you' and risk being rejected. Make him feel comfy and also give him small hints as to what you want him to do. Eg- you both are watching a romantic movie in which the guy says I love you. You could probably say " isn't that so romantic? Any girl would love to hear that".... Something like that. If still he doesn't say anything then you tell him yourself ' I love you'. If he loves you too then he will say it back. If he is scared or seems not ready for it then just turn it as if you were joking ( if you don't mind waiting for longer) or ask him where he sees you both in the future. Good luck!!