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What do I do after I looked through his phone and now he wants to break up?

Im a idiot. I looked at my fiances call list on his cell phone while he was sleeping. I saw he called a girl he used to like. I asked him why in the morning and he said he dialed it by mistake and if I looked I would see that the time of call was 1 second. I beleve him. Now he said I went too far this time and he wants to break up because I pushed him away. I do stuff like this sometimes. I dont think he should even have this girls or any exs numbers. What can I do to make this better?

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1. I thing the only thing you can do is break up, and find a guy who's willing to delete every woman he's ever know as soon as he meets you. Good luck with that.
2. find someone better
3. You obviously dont trust him or you wouldnt have went thru his phone list... Trust is the number one thing in a relationship and you blew it, you made him feel as if you dont trust him, now he doesnt trust you. You blew it.
4. I'm betting this is not the reason for a split it is the last straw of mistrust activities from you isn't it? He must have told you that he is tired of your snooping and mistrust before this or he would not be through that quick. Until you can get over your petty jealousy and mistrust you might as well be single because you can't stay married that way.
5. His reaction stinks of guilt. Really. Why has he got her number in there in the first place. By getting angry and pushing you away he has the upper hand. I obviously don't know him, but I suspect he is up to no good. It is bad you looked at his phone - but you suspicious right? That feeling comes from somewhere....
6. Nobody likes a paranoid psycho. Listen, personally, I agree. I don't see any reason to maintain a friendship with my exes. When we break up, that's the end of it. No more contact unless it can't be helped. However, my girlfriend does not feel the same way. She maintains (sort of) friendships with a couple of her exes. She also has several guy friends that she's known for years (before she met me). She doesn't go and hang out with them or anything, they just keep in touch on facebook or the occasional text or phone call. I was a little suspicious of this for a little while, but I came to two realizations. 1. If she wanted to be with one of her friends or exes instead of me, she would be. 2. She's done absolutely nothing to deserve my suspicion. Like I said, she's not going out and hanging with them, and if she ever did, she'd want me to go along and meet them, she's not coming home at weird hours or being unaccounted for, and she doesn't try to hide anything from me, so there's no suspicious activity going on. So if your boyfriend hasn't done anything to deserve your paranoia, you should tell him that you gave it some serious thought, and you realize there's nothing he's done that's caused you to have acted the way you did, and promise to do better about it in the future.
7. I think that this one incident would not send him over the edge like that. I don't think it is as wrong as some people say to look at these things before you are married. It is called CYA. There has to be trust though and can not go on all of the time. For him to break off an engagement for looking in his phone, is ridiculous. I am thinking you might be a little to jealous and suspicious and I have no idea if you have a reason to be this way with him or not. No one wants to spend their life with someone who is constantly checking up on them or constantly questioning their love and loyalty. I don't think anyone wants to spend their life with someone they have to constantly check up on. Good luck to you.
8. Apologize to him but more importantly you need to learn how to trust more. You had no proof of him doing anything with his ex and you went overboard. Your not an idiot, you just let your emotions get the better of you which happens to everyone at one time or another.
9. It is possible that he did dial by accident, but WHY is her number still programmed in the phone? Are they friends? Did they date? Only you know how many times you have gone through is things so his frustration may not be exaggerated. He can be frustrated for two reasons, one, he's not doing anything and is sick and tired of the accusation, two, he is and doesn't want to go through the hassle of concealing it or dealing with you so would rather break up. Are you insecure or has he given you a reason to feel this way? Sometimes breaking up is a blessing especially in a unhealthy situation (constant accusation, jealous.. all those negative emotions are draining). THe only thing you can do to make it better is trust him (if that is something you can do), have faith in your relationship and be positive (or get better at being sneaky.. ;) Good luck