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I am cheating and I want to stop! what should i do?

I have no excuse for what I am doing besides saying I am so weak! I am married and believe it or not love my husband to death. I know no relationship is perfect and I am so eager to work on my marriage and make it work. My husband is not the kind of man who likes to sit and hear to my heart to heart talks nor is he romantic. I know he loves me but he shows it in a 'practical' sort of way (like helping me around the house) rather than being romantic. I've talked to him about my issues and asked him if he had somethings that he wants me to work on. He says that he is happy 100% with how I am and wouldn't want to change anything. But for me I want some quality time with him, i want to have conversations with him, walk with him and so on. For me the sex is also a big issue. I mean he thinks that I reach orgasm the same time as him so once he is done that's it. I've told him many times that its not like that for me ... he always says he will try but i have not seen much improve. He is a sporty guy and i feel all his interest goes there. He told me that he doesn't even think that we have anything to worry about in our relationship and that i am just too sensitive. Now, I am not listing all this things as an excuse for what i did. it's just to explain what attracted me to the other guy. The other guy is or was my best friend. He was going through a rough divorce and i was feeling lonely. Things happened unexpectedly! He has all the qualities that i would like my husband to have and he is so understanding of me. He never gets tired of me. The affair started 9 months ago and sometimes i feel that i may be falling in love with him. Three weeks ago i told him we need to stop and it was hard. We agreed to avoid all tempting situations and work on being friends. And so far its going ok. But I am terrified of this feelings I have and I am sure he is also thinking the same. Anyway, right now i want to concentrate on my marriage. i want to make it work! i need your help. please don't judge me, just tell me what i should do now. Thanks!

Public Comments

1. Stop then..pure and simple.
2. I am no expert. In fact I have no idea what you are going through. All I can say is, stop seeing the other guy. Then talk to your husband, and tell him that even though you love him to death, he doesn't suit you, at least not in the current condition you are both in. If things get better confess to him about your affair with the other guy, cause if you don't, you'll feel bad about yourself. That's something you should not continue doing. Well, that's all I could think of. Wish you all the luck!
3. Just quit it! or shoot yourself. You can quit if you want to.
4. stop pulling your nickers down and think of ways to improve your marriage, take him on a second honey moon or something, force him to spend quality time coz honey at this rate you'll lose everything family n all.
5. tell the other guy you cant do it anymore.