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Why do I have a need to be DOMINATED by men who fit the bad Boy image?

For instance....Eminem,I find incredibly sexy. Age the Harry Potter characters 10 years and I'd be boinking Draco Malfoy NOT one of the more loveable characters, why? I liked Gaston not the Beast in Beauty and the Beast. Why are they so sexy? Why do women like them? The list is endless. Rhett Butler would be the first cr8ush I had on a bad boy (Gone With the Wind) Love to hear some opinions on why women go for the bad boys.Thanks!

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i don't. it's going to get you in trouble later on. be careful.
Perhaps you were missing a strong father figure in your childhood.
lol, girls r just crazy like that
low self esteem.
one day your husband will beat the snot out of you and you won't leave him, and i won't care. have a bunch of kids, get on welfafe, and saddle up for some drunken fist fights.
women are naturally attracted to dominant men. naturally we feel they have the strongest genes.
Bad boys are just more fun.
I honestly don't know, but I can relate. I'm always attracted to the bad boys who end up hurting me, and not the nice boys. I think maybe b/c I'm attracted to guys who appear that they could physically protect me.
Because they want to think that their lust is adventurous so they can excuse the sin and see it as a dangerous fling. Good luck with that. It never worked for my mom, they wound up beating her a lot and us kids too. Oh, and those bad boys never cared about her or her feelings, they just wanted to use her as a sex doll. Have fun though. Doodad
haha i felt the same way with rhett butler when i saw that movie when i was 11, about 3 years ago haha i<3thatmovie
Because bad boys live on the wild side, they have a darkness to him, adventurous... And bad boys are not as easy to get... And females like what we can't have...
Because bad men draw more attention to the women they are with..Lots of people will feel sorry for you if your husband ends up in jail or dead even. You like to be the center of attention so that way you dont have to try so hard to get it..! It's really very simple!
it's just plain sexy... i got lucky, my boyfriend is a good guy that has a bad boy side to him that only i get to see... what most women don't realise is probably that every guy is a bad boy in some way, some guys flaunt it, others dont...
Thats just the type of guy your attracted too, you should be the one who knows the reasons why your attracted to them.
All women like bad boys
Not me.How could you like someone who doesn't have respect for women?Personally,they turn me off big time.You have to love yourself and not to let anybody mistreat you.Not along like them or be with them.
were you mistreated for attention as a child?
Have you ever heard of Tom Leykis. He talks about this for a living haha.
i adventure
Maybe it isn't about bad boys but you simply love some mystery. You don't like someone who is like "Yes, dear!" all the time. There are some good guys out there that like to keep some things to themselves. You might find true love in one of them. Good luck!
Come on over i'll answer ur question after i knock off a liquor store.
Face it Jen, you're just bent. Take a long hard look in the mirror and ask YOURSELF that question. After you've done that, gimmie your !@#$%^ phone number and we'll see you've got it right.
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In cavemen days, all the females only mated with the 'alpha' male of the clan or group of humans. The alpha-male was always the biggest, strongest, most intimidating, meanest male out of all of the males. The reason why nature inscribed into the female genes to only mate with the alpha-male or in easier words, find him 'sexy'...is because it was the only way to insure that the offspring were fit enough to survive. In other words, Darwinism. Only the fittest survive. It's in your genes to be attracted to the most dominant, strongest, meanest, masculine man out there.
they show a side where most people dont look to often. They look more to the good ppl. maybe idunno. I find myself craving them more sometimes. Its strange to me too o.o
Maybe you don't think you deserve the "good boys", someone who will respect you and treat you good. Sound like you feel bad about yourself and feel the need to punish yourself by going after these "bad boys". Do yourself a favor. Break the circle by working on yourself. You don't need a man to survive. Educate yourself. Make people respect you. Make people be kind to you and do the same to them. Once you start to really like yourself, you won't need to be punished by the "bad boys" anymore. You will be having fun on your own or with the"good boys", if you choose. You are worth it! Best wishes and good luck!
HERE I AM. ITS THE CAVEMAN SYNDROME, SOME OF THESE ANSWERS ARE SO FUNNY, ANYHOW, YEA THATS IT, THE CAVEMAN THING. THATS WHY THEY HAD BIG CLUBS & LONG HAIR, LIKE A ROCK STAR, YEA THATS IT! LOL
You don't want to take control of your life. You want someone to control yours. One day, probably in your 40s, you will wake up and realize life is too short to put up with a controlling dominating man and you will wonder why you thought you couldn't take care of yourself. Earn some respect and start growing up. You will soon see these men for what they are and can appreciate men who are "nice" guys. What's wrong with having a nice guy? They make better fathers for your kids and a happier family.
normally it is due to lack of ur sef confidence, and lack of identity .... but if it is for sex, u like that kind of exciting voracious sex ....
Of course, I don't know why you personally go for them, but this often happens because they're exciting and bring an element of (usually harmless and temporary!) danger that nice, respectful men may lack. Whatever does it for you, if you're of age and it doesn't take you into real danger that you can't control, go for it.
I think it's really just inbred within women, the desire for the bad boy or the strong, domineering Alpha male type. I'm in a relationship with a really good, sweet, kind man who I really love, but I still drool over a friend of mine (and find it insanely hard not to jump into his arms whenever I see him) who is exactly as I just described. Personally, although I do believe that women are genetically drawn to strong men, I think the attraction comes mostly from your own character. People, both women and men who have strong or dominant personalities themselves are usually the ones who long to be dominated by others. The underlying idea is also one that has become completely prominent in our society now; good is boring, bad is sexy and fun. And while many people will try to deny it and call it cliche, all you have to do is look around and you know that its true. We want the bad boy, maybe not to keep but definitely to have some fun with.
Thank you for your brave, frank question! Here's my answer from the "good boy" perspective. (I hope you get responses from bad boys, bad girls and good girls!) My perspective is best because most distant from your puzzle! It's all a matter of whose genes you want in your children, those of the leader-of-the-pack or those of the good boy, who is less exciting, but a good male parent. As type two, I'll put my offspring against the alpha male's any day any time. Alpha males knows this. Shakespeare, put it well when he said: "Those who carry rapiers often fear those who carry goosequills." Nonetheless, bad boys would not exist if they were not often chosen. Do you really want to raise one? The choice is yours. It's an important choice.