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Take a look at my To-Do List...need advice on how to get it done a.s.a.p!?

We moved 3 months ago,hubby n i have a precious 8 months old daughter n im head deep in my 'To-Do List'! -bake bread n at least 3 kinds of sweets -organize baby's room -put baby clothes away that r 2 small -take apart bouncer and baby swing and put away -make n freeze baby food -sew 6 dress 4 baby -sew my dress -mend hubby's pants -make cloth diapers -clean kitchen -fold a ton of laundry -install bars in closets to hang up clothes -organize spare room -paint touch up's where ever the ceiling was accidentally painted -paint wall by the stairs -paint around the top walls in living-room -scrub off paint from spare room floor -make livingroom curtain -weed in front yard -weed in back yard (weeds r almost if not 2 yards high!..the previous owners ddnt take care of yard or house) -mulch front n back yard -till area where my garden will b next yr -rake front yard -install new lights on the outside of the house -clean out garage im also trying to get time in to research a long list of oils n remedies to make a stretch mark oil or lotion plus im trying to find out which fabrics r best for cloth diapers n where to find reasonable priced fabric.Clearly not everything on the list is for me to do but most of it. Im running around the house all day trying to get this n that done n at the end of the day i cant tell what it is i did,i have no time for "me time" any more n im so stressed out. Hubby is not getting any nookey cuz mommy's busy or tired n it all causes stress n tension and since im still bfing full time we cant bring the baby away.If anyone has any advice on how to get into a routine or something i would be so grateful. Don't get the wrong idea my hubby is not in the least bit lazy,a very hard working man but what i didn't mention is we r also renovating so he is quite busy with that. He's also making closet doors for my sewing room and a sewing table. N yes this load of work staring me in the face can be a bit depressing,no one says i have to paint the wall by the stairs but the paint is there n it needs to be done. I know things cant be perfect,that's not my goal. My main priority for everyday is taking care of my baby n having a meal on the table with dishes done n the floor swept. Btw im from Canada.

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1. Hire yourself a army of maids.
2. Throw away the list, take care of the baby, clean the house as good as you can. Go to yard sales and buy her some dresses. She's going to outgrow them before you get them sewn. They sell disposable diapers now. They're really better for the baby, less diaper rash. It keeps their butts dryer than cotton does. Are you from another country by the way ? Get you some garden gloves, and do the weeding when you get frustrated at your husband, who apparently doesn't do a lot around the home ? Good luck.
3. TOP OF LIST. PRIORITY. Calm down and stop making lists. This list is completely unachievable and it is just going to make you feel SO pressurized. You have some basic needs. Your baby needs to be fed and loved. YOU need to be fed and loved.. You are setting yourself an impossible standard here, and it just isn;t possible or even necessary. OK, if the place is disorganised, than can make things harder and it is depressing, but you really need to get your priorites right. Who exactly is saying you need to paint the wall by the stairs? Do you feel you have to be perfect in every way to be a good mother? Because you don;t. My kids remember the fun we had, not how good the painwork was! I hope I;m not patronising you when I say you may be just a bit depressed? You are concentrating on everything being just perfect, when it doesn;t have to be. Concentrate on one thing at a time. Most important is your baby. Make sure she is ok.. relax, enjoy her.. but you are still a person in your own right too.. you MUST set aside a bit of time just for you. The oil for stretch marks etc... waste of time.. they're there now.. nothing to be done about them, no matter WHAT the oil manufacturers say? Oh, I wish I could come and help you.. I think if the place were just sorted out a bit, you would be able to focus more and develop a routine.. But stop it with the lists.. you can;t possibly be expected to do all that