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Am I going to go my entire life without getting a date?

To start off, I'm 21 years old, and I've never been on a date. I've never held a girl's hand, kissed a girl, had sex, etc. I've done none of those things listed as well as other things I can't immediately think off the top of my head. I HAVE ZERO FRIENDS!!! I'm just not important enough for people to want to hang out with me. I'd never be more than a THIRD WHEEL. So, I just gave up on making friends. Also, I'm currently a senior in college, and I'm going to graduate with a bachelor's degree in accounting in December. In December 2012, I'm going to graduate with a masters degree in accounting. By age 24, I will have my C.P.A. license. So, I'm definitely a loser. I'd say that I'm pretty withdrawn. I don't like to go to parties because they're all about alcohol. Also, parties generally attract trashy people. Bars are filled with people who are there for one night stands. I'm not the one to dominate a conversation. I don't like to approach women because i suck at it. Also, they probably have a boyfriend anyways. So what's the point? I have approached women before, but all of them have been in a class of mine. I've only tried with 4 women in my entire life. I feel like a loser for never having been on a date. All of these girls either had a boyfriend or simply wanted nothing to do with me after talking with me for a month or two. I'd say that I'm pretty ugly. I'm 5'7" and 160 lbs. I need to get serious and get six pack abs because that's my only hope right now for attracting girls. I have no sense of style, so I dress really poorly. However, I'm not going to wear stuff just so that others are happy. I have to like it myself, or whats the point? It's to hard to find clothing anyways when you're only 5'7" because it's all too big. As far as interests go, the only one I can think of off the top of my head is reading. I love to read history and other non-fiction books. I may develop a taste for fiction in the future, but I haven't yet. My university is comprised of many people 25 and older. I'm an anomaly by being a 21 year old senior. I don't find girls 18-21 at my university. Anyways, what should I do? I would prefer a girl who's on the quiet side. I don't want some loud obnoxious girl. Where can I go to find a girl like that? Also, where do 18-21 year old girls hang out since my university has very few of them?

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1. you'll get a date
2. try the library if you like readin my g
3. *raises one eye brow* You, Sir, is in fact, Interesting. I can't believe I read it all. Let me explain a few points why I found you interesting. #1.) You're going somewhere in your life and you set goals for yourself. You put education as one your priorities. I'm impressed especially at your age of being 21 and all. I don't think that is a definition of "a bum". If someone thinks you're a loser, wait till they see you in 5 or 10 years down the road from now and they end up a dead end toad. #2.) You don't pity anybody, you pick and choose your friends wisely. And you don't like folks that party, however with me, people like those are a "red flags" in my book. I got to be honest, I'm with you on that one, those kind of people disgusts me and it's irritating, like seriously. I don't like the atmosphere of bars, clubs or the party people. #3.) You might be real insecure in yourself. But, magic comes when you can stay True to yourself. #4.) Your interest is Reading and you like to live your life low-key and quiet.
4. Wow you are kind of picky like me I want a simple boyfriend who is non- partying and not loud must be Chinese cause of parent's. Best way is go to the library pretending your looking around for a seat if you see a cute girl you like , ask them if it is okay can we sit together and study if that is okay , but first ask am I bothering you then start your conversation. I'm 21years old too and I feel old at my community College most cute guys are either taken or way too young for me so i gave up I rather be an aloner and make lots of friends to hangout with which I did and it works .:D
5. Why, I find you interesting. Hm, try to look for girls in the library or in the coffee shop.
6. if you really cannot develop a sense of style for your own, try dressing like this until you find yourself. http://image.yesstyle.com/assets/19/191/l_p1005119119.jpg work out a lot, and maybe have lower standards, just for the time being. i also would suggest some therapy as it sounds like you really just never found your place in the world. you never went through the whole self discovery part of the teenage years where you develop a sense of style and know what you like and who you are. good luck! minee? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110830215652AAtTDDI
7. You'll need a lot of thinking to do. Try Picking up style in dressing and the way you talk around them. But i think you will end up getting pussy in the long run. by the way im 5'7'' and weigh 160 too but im the opposite of you i had about 7 girlfriends in my life. good luck
8. Join a club for charity or some kind of association to meet people. People can introduce you to their friends and then you can build up your network from there. From friendship, you can move to dating. I can tell you, as a decent girl who's on the quiet side, I would prefer things to move slowly and friendship before dating. Libraries are a possible place to look, but college libraries are anything but quiet. Quiet girls are usually off in their corner, sometimes sitting alone.. it's easier to get to know them from becoming friends with their friends. If you see a girl sitting in the dining hall/student center with her book propped open, it may open a leeway for conversation. Of course, if she's reading you shouldn't "bother" her too much but it shouldn't be too bad if you mentioned something about your hobby about reading. Common interests is very important to engaging the other person, be it same or opposite sex. Why? Because you can hang out with them, doing the things you like TOGETHER. It's a win-win situation. Again, the key is making friends with other people. That will increase your chances of getting a date because you're maximizing the number of social interactions you have. Most of us are average looking.. but you see plenty of people dating. Sure, there may be some special cases where people effortlessly seem to get lots of dates and whatnot.. the rest of us, we make some kind of effort to get to know as many people we can. Focus on friendship first and the love life.. will somehow, slowly but surely, come to you. It requires the effort to get to know new people :)
9. Wow, maybe you should work on your self-esteem before trying to ask a girl out. I'm sure you're just great. I'd go out with you! You sound like pretty down-to-earth guy. Just find a pretty girl and flirt. JUST EFFING DO IT.