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Am i a bad person? If not then why do i deserve this?

Hi, First off, I always have considered myself a good person, I do a lot of things for a lot of people most of it is overlooked but i ignore that because i'm not looking for thanks. I've always been there when a friend is down, Often giving up some of my own happiness. I am also unemployed (not by choice) which I don't understand.. I worked harder than most people but with little to no opportunities. While people who have not worked hard get the jobs.I live with my parents at the age of 21 cause i can't afford to move out yet. They are always giving me a bad time cause I haven't found a job yet specially my brother, who even through i help him often takes every chance to belittle me.. Right now i have almost zero confidence, every time I look for help, people can't find the time for me. Even through I could always find time for them. When i want to talk to a friend about my problems I don't get comforting words or anything, they just put everything so harshly even through they see me try so hard. I'm not going to list all the bad things that has happened to me this summer but there's a lot and it feels like every time I try to get on with my life there's someone to kick me in the nuts. I am depressed i am in the process of seeing a doctor about it. I don't know what to do anymore.. I always believed that if your a good person, When things aren't looking so good people will be there for me like i have been for them. Or if i work hard something will eventually happen. So does this mean im a bad person? And i deserve all this? Thanks for reading. @unkown friend, I cant even get a job like that. My area isn't blooming with jobs at all.

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1. See your doctor and hang on in there. Your time will come.
2. No one deserves to be treated the way you describe being treated. Unfortunately some people are so self absorbed that they can't see past their own issues. Those kind of people are not the kind you need as friends right now. You can't do much about family members doing that except ignore it and keep trying to better yourself. Try to get a menial job for now until one you like comes along at least it will get you out of the house and bring you some money in. Hopefully that will stop the comments about you not having a job. Good Luck!
3. No you are not bad
4. No no no... You are not a bad person from what you have explained, and no you do not deserve the crap time you are going through either. Sometimes people get so used to a friends/loved ones generosity or kind nature, and it becomes expected for him/her so much that his/her feelings are forgotten, and are just expected to manage their own issues because they are so laid back, easy going and undemanding! All of which are qualities that in effect become the very thing to cause people to take the p**s so to speak. Kind of a vicious circle. Your family and friends should be more ready to help you in times of need as you are for them no hesitation. Keep your chin up, think posative and you'll attract posative back into your life, I promise :-) a job will come along also, they always do eventually. Look at it like, the jobs going to find you hun, rather than you finding it. I hope things get better for you soon, you seem like you truely deserve it.