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What is a Classy response to rejection?

Was talking to a guy for a little bit & then got asked out on date. I was rather excited since we seem to get along well, and he fit my check list;) On date he mentions he's not really looking 4 a gf at the moment, there was a awkward silence on my end cause I was shock since he DID ask me out on date. I felt slightly led In future what is classy way to handle rejection? Did he reject me? 17 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.

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1. Wow! What a confusing situation to be in. I think I would have found a way to calmly, gracefully end the evening. "Been real nice, got to go. Thanks!" I guess he made a decision in the middle of the date that you weren't the one. Sorry.
2. I don't think this was really a rejection. A lot of times when guys ask girls out on a date they are looking to get to know her better and see if there minds change about wanting a girlfriend, but most people can't decide that after one date. On the other hand maybe he did not feel a connection with you and that's ok too, it happens to the best of us. In the future: make sure not to push the girlfriend thing on the first date, keep it casual and say something like " Yes, I am taking it slow as well, I really like to get to know someone before making a serious commitment". Classy and too the point - it does not shoot him down at the possibility or demand commitment.
3. Wel...since you're looking for something meaningful and let's say another guy like this shows up in your life....I'd say it should go like this: Him: '...yeah, well....so you know, I'm not really looking for anything serious at this time...' You: 'Ok, well then...I'm not looking for anything like you either...thanks for the coffee/drink/ice cream/whatever...' And excuse yourself....be charming, be nonchalant...be cool about it and roll out. Why waste your time with someone like that? Really, you would be wasting your time...awkward conversation, moments of silence....etc. If you stick around he may think that (even if you don't say a word) that you are ok with it....as in your silence can be interpreted as acceptance. My 2 cents.
4. Yes, he rejected you. Maybe he just said that because he didn't feel the date was going well and he wanted to let you down gently. Or maybe his intention was never to look for a girlfriend in the first place and he just wants sex, and made sure to let you know he's not looking for a comitted relationship because he didn't want you to get your hopes up in that department. I've had this happen to me, and my response was: "Well, it looks like we're looking for different things. Thanks for being honest, at least. Goodluck and goodbye!" That way you don't sound angry or bitter, but you make it clear to him that you don't think you should continue seeing each other if you are after different things.
5. It means he just wants sex with you without commitment....i'm thinking a lot of girls are doing this so guys don't care anymore about relationships. Happened to me i stuck around...it's really sad. I felt kind of used and if thats not what you are looking for just walk away from him.
6. The classiest response is a smile and nothing else. He didn't necessarily reject you, he may have had second thoughts about dating, it could have been all kinds of things. Maybe he had a bad relationship and wants to take things slowly.
7. You say, "I appreciate your honesty on that. I will be honest with you also. I am looking for a serious relationship and marriage. That's why I date and if the guy doesn't fit my list, I move on." So, if he calls again, you tell him the truth. I dated a whole lot when I was in my early 20s and later on when I was tired of all the dating, I actually used that line a few times. One guy said the same thing your date did because he thought it would relax me or lull me I guess, because when I said, "well I am looking for a serious relationship and so I don't think we are headed in the same direction." he started back peddling and saying that he really would like one. "Too late" I thought because he was a wiener anyway. I was happy he said it, he fell right into my plan to get out of further dating : ) You should not feel awkward. You did nothing wrong. He may have asked you on a date in order to get sex w/o commitment. (loser). You went out with him to see what he was like, now you know. No big deal. The only way that you will get what you want is to know what you want and to leave those who don't fit the bill graciously behind. Patience, kindness, self esteem, and honesty will get you what you want.
8. u did not get rejected - he still wants to bone u, just doesn't want to do it on permanent basis. so u did not get rejected, u just should have said "neither am i (when he says he is not looking for a gf), but thanks for a lovely meal" and then leave. (i hope he at least was paying for a lovely meal. or are u one of those "emancipated femmes"?