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Boyfriend wants to smoke weed occasionally?

I am 16 my bf is 17. He is smart and funny and perfect as a bf. in the past he was a bit of a player, drunk alot abd did some drugs. he ticked everything off the list had fun and lived his life. we have been together a year and he said he was ready to settle down now and he made it clear he never wanted to do that bad stuff again and promised he never would. now he's saying he wants all this freedom and be able to do whatever he wants including talking to other girls clubbing parties drink drugs etc. idk where this has come from he's always been loyal and honest and perfect and had the right mind set to make right descions. I feel asif he is slipping back into his past ways, isn't ready for the commitment he said he was or I mean nothing sudenly. he's always done everything for me and would give up his life for me! but I never ask that I never control him I just have a few standards and simple exectations. please help what do I do or say? xx

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1. ooooooo i think its time to go buy a tub of ice cream and ring a gf to have a cry with :/
2. Let him do it there is no reports of it harming you or anyone else. It isnt a drug its a herb. Hence why it is being brought up in legislation right now. It does no harm, he wont be a bad person for using it. He wont change or become lazy. He just might eat more for a couple hours. They really need to stop running the smear campaigns against it. They are misinforming you. Seriously its known to increase brain size and doesnt have any ill effect on the body or mind. It is recognized in the bible....as the cure all.
3. Dont waste ur life on him. Once a druggie, always a druggie, tis where the term "drug addicts" come into play. And as for wanting to take other girls out, let him! Just tell him that he won't be taking you out no more. Sorry to tell you but he's a loser and you can do better.
4. Thats A Whole Lot ! Lol But I Know Where Hes Coming From But One Day Hes Gonna Regret Losing Someone Who Loved Him So Much .. If Anything Happens I Mean , But Juss Keep Trying To Get Thru To Him ! As Hard As You Can .. If NOthings Happening Leave ,, If He Comes Back & Does What You Want Him To Do .. Its Meant TO Be .. You Know ? Everything Happens For A Reason .. Someones Going To COme Into Your Life And MAke You Realize Why Nobody Else Made It .. && That Is Why I Say If It Happens Its Meant To Be .. & I Know Youre Not Suppose To Say "NEver" But NEVER Ever Live In Regret (=
5. he's not perfect then! lol NEVER compromise your standards to please someone else..you will end up always giving and changing until your in situation you hate. Tell him, he can do what ever he likes - but so can you. you can choose to leave him and find someone better...then the ball is in his court...but stick to your guns.
6. Cannabis is the Holy Tree of Life of the bible. The end of cannabis prohibition is the RAPTURE. alcohol and tobacco are v bad.
7. I don't think the problem itself is that he wants to smoke weed occasionally. I think the problem is that he may not be ready for commitment. Commitment is sometimes about compromise, and if he said he was going to give up the clubbing, drugs, alcohol, and talking to girls so that he could be with you, you have every right to put your foot down. Ask him why he wanted to give up those things for you in the first place, and what exactly changed to make him want to change his mind. If you're not satisfied with his answer, tell him you're upset about it. Give him the chance to make it right, and if he doesn't, he's not ready to be committed to you. If he's not ready to be committed to you, you've got to figure out if he's still worth being with. You're not trying to control him. You're trying to keep him at his word. That's not control, its an expectation that he knows you have. Good luck, and update us when you can. P.S.- Pot isn't a problem unless it is a problem for you, or he gets you in trouble with it. Some people don't date people who smoke cigarettes, and that is reasonable. Same goes for pot too.
8. You need to know that your happiness matters the most than guy or anyone. It is the reason why you are able sleep at night and wake being able to function. Now boys don't know what they have til they loose it. I was in your shoes same exact age but beyond what your experiencing. I went from heaven to he'll itself and let me tell you something that if he doesn't see what you are to him you need to let go right away. I know you're like saying no but he needs to learn that life without you is s***!! He needs to know that you don't tolerate that crap. This is where it will go down... He's going to do what he feels no matter what you can't stop him, tears aren't going to stop him you at home aching is not going to stop unless you speak uP and stand for yourself either he gets it together or step! Is the brutal truth and trust me u don't want to dance around is agony be forward you have your happiness on the line. If he stays do things together n talk everything out and how to stay that way if he steps you remember it guarantee he will be back atellin you the something go with your heart listen your gut!! Good luck