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What happens to a relationship when one person wants an abortion and the other refuses?

If one person (say the boyfriend) thinks that having a child at this point is not prudent and suggests an abortion. The boyfriend offers to pay for the abortion and lists clearly why this is the best choice. The other person (the girlfriend) refuses to have an abortion on religious grounds (despite not having religious beliefs regarding pre-marital sex). The boyfriend obviously is not going to pressure or force the girlfriend to have an abortion so what happens next. Outside of this single disagreement the relationship is the best either person has been a part of. Does the boyfriend have to end it over this dispute. The relationship is a long term one and he does love the girl (despite her stubbornness on this topic). Can he stay with her even after his girlfriend refuses his request? The boyfriend realizes that there isn't going to be an abortion. He tried to convince her and she disagreed. No is denying the fact that it is her choice. He has stopped trying to convince her since she has made it adamant that she cannot "kill" their child. And he would never make her do anything.

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1. It dissolves (usually), she has a baby and he has to pay child support. Sometimes it will remain solvent, but not often. She is not stubborn, she has a right to make her own decisions about her own body.
2. When one person wants an abortion, and the other one does not, then you have to remember, the one who does not want the abortion, it is her body and her choice and the one who does want the abortion, has to pay child support.
3. Its the mothers decision weather to keep the baby or get an abortion. & the father of the baby should be supportive. & stand by her no matter what. Its his child too. It takes 2 people to make the baby not just one.
4. Same thing went down in my relationship, my boyfriend wanted me to have an abortion but I refused because I personally feel that no one has the right to stop someone from having a life. If you don'tt want to be a parent there is adoptions surrogatess all types of other options. but anywhom, I told him no, and that if he wanted to leave me thats cool. That my child would still have a life. needless to say he went through his whole non supportive phase but now im 9 months pregnant and he is still around and wants me to name our son after him. Sometimes the mother has to fight for the well being of her child even if it means dismissing the man. and trust when I say the state is in favor of single mothers.
5. It's up to the woman really, because it is her baby and if she wants to keep it she does. But if you find it is best then do what you both agree on. x. Good Luck,xox.
6. Her body, her decision. Do you want to stay with her? Be a dad? You could try, but you can't keep throwing it in her face, or labelling your child as a mistake. I wish you all the best of luck.
7. I think that the boyfriend should just support her through the pregnancy and not request an abortion as this is a life you are talking about if the boyfriend was big enough to be unsafe whilst having sex then he should stand by the choice he made as this is his child as you say its a long term relationship and you obviously love each other it would be a shame for you both to become distant because of the pregnancy also this girl is the one putting her self through the pain for the boyfriend and her say is final do not ask or make her get a abortion there is a lot of women out there who wish they could have the opportunity these two people have been given just think about it because it could be the best thing you ever have :)
8. it does take two to make a baby!!! my partner did not want our child when i said the news and asked me to have an abortion which he knew clearly i would NOT have done. He has now settled with the idea and has said he was glad i did not take that option because i could have went on with life blaming him for my regrets so sometimes a relationship could break up even if both end up agreeing on an abortion. Personally its the ladies decision and you have to accept that. any fool with a penis can make a baby but only a real man can raise his children.
9. Hmm. Touchy situation. I think that the boyfriend should remember that there are much worse things in life then a child. That he chose to have sex with the woman he apparently loves and therefore should take responsibility for the consequences. It can be trying when you aren't ready for it but if he loves her as he claims then I see no reason why their relationship cannot continue. She will need all the love and support she can get since I'm sure this is unexpected and scary for her as well. The boyfriend should remember that he will have to take responsibility for his child wether he stays with the mother or not. So why not tackle this head on with your loving partner instead of stressed and alone? The boyfriend may find he feels very differently in a few months or when he first holds his precious baby. I would give my relationship a chance to survive and my heart a chance to change.