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Hey how do i tell this to my bf?please help me out guys!?

i am a 18 yr old girl.My bf John of 6 months is of the same age as me.We both love each other a lot and also want to get married.We both have completely different past.i am john's first crush,first love and first gf.He has never looked at any girl that way before he met me.Before meeting me he was only into his studies,his friends and all.He is an amazing guy.He has not even talked dirty with me till now.He is too much of an introvert.We don't even talk about non veg stuff or things related to sex.So i guess for him being intimate and stuff before marriage is a BIG thing.He would never do that with me.And i like it that way.We are not still in a stage to talk about such stuff.Now i have had 1000's of crushes before him.My first relationship was with a guy called Ben.It was not a serious relation.We were just seeing each other.We talked as little as twice a week.It could be hardly called a relation.I was with him just because i had been rejected by my crushes and that lowered my self esteem which made me desperate to have a bf for a status.We did nothing more than holding hands!But he kind of cheated on me.This shattered me.Tom gave me the boost to confidence,he made me feel special.So i fell for him and we got into a relation.This one was a serious relation.I deeply invested in this relation emotionally.I always thought that I am indebted of him to give me my confidence back.He pressurized me for getting physical and I agreed.we did share physical relation but only upto a limit.Then somehow we broke up.John only knows that I had a 2 and half yrs of relation with tom.He doesn’t know about our physical stuff.John doesn’t even know about ben.Nor does he know about my list of crushes.I am planning to tell this to him tomorrow when we meet up,I have told him that I have to confess a very serious and a big thing about my past.i also told him that you may break up with me after knowing that thing.He told me that nothing in the world can make him break up with me.He trusts me blindly.The question is that how should I tell him all this?in which manner and in which order? Should I tell him everything in sequence as a story that happened in my life?like first my crush,then heart break,then ben and then tom?Which would be the appropriate way such that it doesn’t leave a negative impression of me and my character on him.and such that it all concludes in a good note without his loosing trust on me? Please answer this guys..please..It's urgent.PLEASE HELP ME!NO rude comments or offense please! Thank you all in advance! PLEASE DO READ THE WHOLE THING AND ANSWER!

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1. If he loves you, he will understand! he will trust and love you the same way as he does even after you tell this to your boyfriend..
2. I really can't understand why you would have to tell him anything about your past, sex, crushes or anything else. At the end of the day, what was in the past is exactly that, the past. Too may people concentrate on the un important things in a relationship, like you. Surely what is important is what the both of you have, if its a true love and meant to be why risk all for something that has nothing to do with him. Unless of course deep down that's what you want, for him to end it. If not keep your mouth shut, no good can come of it. All the best.
3. well the way you should see it that its not negative effect actually it shows that u really love him and are serious.by telling him the truth you will lighten(free) your heart and can enjoy the relationship....... just tell him in a way that doesn't sound that it means you are a girl of bad character or something like that(no disrespect) and you mentioned he loves u more than anything...so if u are planning a future with him then i think its necessary too. so best of luck........
4. I think he loves u a lot like u already said this.. so, just tell him everything from the beginning.. I'm sure he'll listen to u carefully and will understand, n m sure he's not going to leave u ever. :) Have a courage n patience n just tell him evrythng, and remember, don't leave anything to tell him later. tell everything totally and perfectly,and no lies . All d best.
5. tell him everything from the being . boys like girls who speak frankly . and if u say everything means at first he will be angry on u . but he will get convince soon and he will normal like before . u must say everything in such a manner that he should take it lightly. and make him irritate by hearing this .