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Destination wedding, small guest list, who do we invite to the bridal shower?

My mom and future mother in-law have requested I put together invite lists for the showers they are each planning. We are getting married on Maui in August, and kept the invite list minimal. However, we are having a reception back home in October. Is it appropriate to extend the invite to people that are included in the reception, although they were not invited to the wedding? As untraditional as the destination wedding is, we still want to have some traditional aspects to other events.

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1. No. Only invite those to the shower who are invited to the wedding. People will bring presents to the reception, but don't hit them up for another if they won't be at the wedding.
2. yes invite all that will be at the reception.
3. I think it would be OK. It depends on the crowd involved...some people may say that you are just after more gifts but I don't think that sounds like the case. Perhaps you can have a guest or a videographer make a video of the wedding in Maui to show back home at the reception. give out burned copies as favors. Then everybody will still be able to have a part. I'm doing that since most family can't travel and we will also include one of the votives that we burned during the ceremony with the video. It might be a little extra but I wanted to make sure people didn't think we had married away just to exclude them or that they weren't missed.
4. Everyone.
5. Invite the people who matter to you most. You don't neccesarily have to invite the same people you invite to the reception.
6. Showers are not given by the mothers are they? I have to look that up but I thought only friends do that. Well I wouldnt invite anyone to a shower that isnt invited to the wedding reception and officially not to the wedding either. This question is tough since usually you do not invite anyone to a shower that isnt invited to the wedding.
7. yes
8. First off, it is against etiquette for family members or future family members to host a shower for you. Second off, it is against etiquette to not invite shower guests to the wedding itself. That is a tremendously RUDE No-No. Having a destination wedding means you have to "miss out" on certain traditional things, if you want to still follow proper etiquette. Sorry but if you want to be a polite wedding couple rather than a gift-grabby nightmare bride, that's the way it goes. If having the DW is so important to you, you're going to have to say "no thank you" to these offers for showers.
9. You only invite those to the shower who were invited to the wedding. Consequences of your choices...