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Excluded from the Wedding List Part 2?

More to the Saga. When I first started planning my wedding, my Mother told me she would pay for the reception and that I could invite 100 people. My Father was supposed to give some money and to date he has not so I have had to keep my list to a bare minium only inviting people I am close too. Yesterday my Aunt who I have not seen in more than 25 years (would not know her if she came to my door right now) called my Mother and informed her that she was coming to the wedding. She was downright disrespectful to my Mother. My Mother told her nicely that she is not on the list and was not invited. Is has come to our attention that my Father who again, has not paid a dime is telling people that they can come to the wedding. Should I call my Father and have a talk with him or just keep turning people down that he feels the need to invite?

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1. Talk to your Father.
2. You need to call your father and talk to him. If he wants a say in the list then he needs to help out some. I just went through this and I know how hard it is to keep telling people "I'm sorry your not invited but I'm on a budget." It sucks because you know how important they must feel....
3. Speak with you're father. You do not need to bring up that he has not paid for anything, but you should at least tell him to stop inviting people. Let him know you already have a list of people you want there (or make one real quick of you don't have it), and you don't know if you can afford others yet. Maybe ask him to just let you know who he wants invited, and you will take the inviting into your own hands. Good luck! :)
4. I think you should tell you dad. It is not right for him to invite people without consulting you first since it is your big day!
5. Talk to your father about it and let him know that you have a set budget. You can always take the back door out and blame it on the vendors, "I have already told caterer 100 people so I can't add on to that" or "the reception location only holds 100" If you father wants to include distant relatives and they think they should be included, consider having a brunch or breakfast the day after the wedding. Here in the south its actually customary to have a day after brunch where the bride and groom open their gifts so people can be thanked in person before the thank you notes go out and you can say a proper goodbye. People pay for their own meal so your dad can invite the whole world and it won't kill your budget. You will enjoy your honeymoon more if you get a little rest first anyway.
6. tell your dad that when he shells out some cash, then he can ASK you if he can invite some of his family to YOUR wedding. I think its just downright rude to invite people to someone elses wedding, even if he is your father.
7. You need to be honest and talk to your dad if he has invited extras without you even knowing he should really try and contribute or stick to your list and your budget. At the end of the day this is your wedding your big special day and it needs to go to plan. Your plan your list. I'm sure he will understand.
8. Please call him and talk to him. You can't just start adding random people to the guest list without clearing it with the bride and groom. If he is planning to pay for them then just politely inform him that he needs to give you that money to ensure they have a place to sit.
9. You need to call your dad and tell him to stop inviting people. Even if he did send you money he can't just invite people to the wedding.
10. I would definitely speak to him, as it is your wedding, and if he is not going to participate financially then he has no right to invite people that you would not be able to invite otherwise. Is it a possibility that he is just waiting to be told that he needs to pay some money toward the reception? I know things can sometimes be misunderstood, especially when there are a ton of other things going on during the planning of a wedding. I will cross my fingers that this is the case for you. If he is not planning on helping you, then I would kindly explain to him that there can only be *however may people you can invite* and you have already reached that maximum, if he wanted to contribute and help then you would be able to invite more...hopefully that will help if this is the case :)
11. i have that prob my mum would not pay 4 my wedding so i would tell u dad that it is your and u partners wedding he can say 2 people that they can come but he will have 2 pay 4 there or there would not b another food then it is up 2 him then
12. Tell your Father you are doing the invitation list not him.