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Wedding gift list?

We are getting married abroad in November and a small group of friends & family are coming. How far in advance do you really need to arrange a wedding list. I have heard from places like Debenhams that about a year is the right time, but surely half the stock won't be there by the time it people choose to buy gifts. Also, is it ok to have a wedding gift list if getting married abroad? We are only doing one in case people want to get us a small gift, but we won't be sending cards out to people to tell them about it.

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Personally, I think a year is a bit previous, I would do it at around 6 months before hand.
It is ok to have a list but like you say don't advertise the fact that you have one only give the information if asked and make sure you have affordable things on there aswell most places offer vouchers aswel as gifts john lewis is great my friend has her list with them
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6 months before !! Pls add to your wedding list : - A travel to Paris, the most beautiful city in the world ;) ;) ...from a Parisian ;)
personally i think wedding lists are a bad thing and it makes you sound cheeky asking for presents. the word present means gift and noone should feel pressurised to give one off a list. some people just don't have the money to buy gifts and as it is a tolken shouldn't be asked for.
debehams don't allow you to do your gift list until 3/4 months before, obvious reason being season changes/sales - therefore stock changes and yes its fine to do a gift list as long as you don't send the card out with the invites as your not inviting them to your wedding! You may just received things like vouchers anyway though, that way if people want to buy your a pressie they will either enquire about a gift list or buy something off their own back....your not then pressuring people into buying you something for a wedding their not invited to! as for other gift lists, I'm sure other stores the same time scale applies...unless your buying from somewhere that has their items permanently in stock! hope your wedding is fabulous!
hi i wouldnt go for 12mths ahead,i think thats way too in advance,by the time your wedding comes,you could have bought the goods yourself,or changed your mind,what you put on list i would go for about 6-8 wks,that way it gives people enough time too get gift,you can also be sure the gifts you are choosing are what you want,the gifts will be the most up too date, plus if you gave a list out 12mths ahead and your guests bought gifts then,what happens if after the wedding you find they dont work properly,and the warentee is out of date,
I'd say 8-10 weeks before wedding time enough although if the store allows you could have your list picked to be ready for then. Have answered another posting today about disasters of wedding lists but do not think anything wrong with a wedding list in itself and no reason not to have one because you are marrying abroad. When lists came out like a lot of people I thought them a bit of a cheek. However, times have changed and choosing a gift for someones home more difficult. Years ago towel colours etc didn't matter but I don't know of anyone who wouldn't have towels to suit their bathroom. Also at one time (in UK anyway) double bedding was a popular choice for gifts but now with King, Queen beds etc without asking you can't take for granted. Also too every other week you could change your top cover with any colour under the sun. Now most people have 1 or 2 really special covers all co-ordinating. Think all reasons why it's good to have a list, whether just written down or in a store (but with stores you'll need to keep your fingers crossed it works out well) although I am sure most people will still very much appreciate the thought of any other gift given outwith their list.
It is PERFECTLY fine to have a registry even if you are having it abroad. I would do it about 5-6 months before. CONGRATS!!
Hi there. I have heard a lot of bad things about Debenhams gift list so I wouldn't go for them to be honest. We used John Lewis and they were fantastic. You are best going for somewhere that you can buy online or over the phone for people who can't get out. We registered about a year previously so we had a gift list number to put in with invitations but we only chose items and have the gift list go live 6 weeks before the day so most items were in stock. I don't think it's a problem with getting married abroad, but if you feel funny about it maybe just say if people really want to buy something then to get gift vouchers??
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE, WEA RE GETTING MARRIED IN JUNE. AS BOTH MY PARTNER AND MYSELF HAVE BEEN MARRIED BEFORE, WE HAVE HAD EXACTLY THE SAME SORT OF PROBLEM! i HAVE GOT ROUND THIS BY SENDING OUT A PERSONAL POEM TO EVERYONE ALONG WITH THE INVITES AND IT SAYS: OUR WEDDING IS NEARLY UPON US, ARRANGEMENTS ARE FALLING IN PLACE, WE PRAY THAT YOU'LL SHARE OUR DAY WITH US, TO PUT A GREAT SMILE ON OUR FACE! ITS 2 YEARS THAT WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER, WE'VE SETTLED IN STAFFORDSHIRE FINE, BUT THE KITCHENS IN NEED OF A FACELIFT, WE'LL SETTLE FOR OAK OR FOR PINE! SO PLEASE, INSTEAD OF A GIFT LIST, ITS MONEY WE'D LIKE TO REQUEST, OR MAYBE A VOUCHER FROM ARGOS, TO HELP KEEP OUR HOME AT ITS BEST!!
I've got my list with John Lewis, I started it as soon as we set the date (Sept this year, started list about two weeks ago). Nothing can be purchased until about 5/6 weeks before your date, so starting early shouldn't really be a problem. As for things being out of season etc, things for the home don't normally change that often - vases, towels, furniture ...........
You are allowed to create a gift wish list any time in between the time you get engaged and the wedding date. However, many things will get discontinued if you register too early. 4 months before the wedding day is plenty. Wherever you create your wish list, there should be instructions to ship the gifts directly to your home, so the problem of guests travelling with gifts to your wedding should not really come up. And you're right-- the correct etquette is not to publicize your wish list-- You wait until someone inquires if you have a wish list, and then you can tell the person the info, at which store, etc.
I would say that a year is about right because that gives people time to go over it and see what they can afford. You don't want to rush people or you'll get no gifts!