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Baby shower invitation list etiquette ?

I am helping throw my friend a baby shower &she sent us a list of people she wants to invite. My mother, who knows my friend but is not close with her, asked me to tell my friend to add her to the invite list. My mother was not on my friends invite list & now I don't know what to do. I feel awkward asking my friend to invite my mother because obviously she did not think of my mother when making the list. And I don't know how to tell my mother she wasn't on the list... & honestly, is it even acceptable to be asked to be put on an invitation list??? Now I feel weird because I'm involved in the shower & can't tell my mom until I resolve this or figure out what to do. And, I want to tell my mother she has no etiquette in asking to be invited to a party. I just don't know what to do. I feel like my only options are to 1) ask my friend if my mother can come & feel weird about it, 2) find a way to tell my mother it's rude & out of place, or 3) lie to my mother about it all. Other ideas? In response to 1st reply... 1) isn't it rude to ask to be invited to a party? If the people wanted you there they would have invited you. And 2) the mama did not put my mother on the list, hence that would lead me to believe she did not want to/think of inviting my mother.

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1. what's wrong with asking if you can take your mother. it's up to the mama to decide not you AND you have put too much stress into this subject.
2. Let your mother know that she was not on the list of invitees. I find it strange that, since she is not really close with this friend, that she would want to be invited, or assume that she was invited. Typically these events are shared with close friends and family. Apparently, the feeling of "closeness" or the lack thereof, is mutual. Just let mom down gently. Tell her you'll bring her a piece of cake. (Kidding ...)
3. I would think that the shower hostess probably didn't include your mother as so the mother of the baby doesn't seem greedy for gifts. As long as there isn't an issue between your mom and the guest of honor - her attendance wouldn't be a problem. As to your concerns in order you listed above: 1. You don't have to feel weird about it. Just say - my mom wanted to come and celebrate with you. If your friend is mature this wouldn't be an issue. She would say - "well, I need to keep the guest list to X, but tell her thanks for thinking of me." OR "Great!! I didn't think to invite her, I am so sorry." 2. Your mother isn't being rude. This is a case where she wants to go and bring a gift and wish someone well. She wants to be generous that isn't rude. (If her intentions are otherwise - that is another question all together) 3. Lie - never the right option and would show a lack of maturity on your part.
4. This has happened with my mother and I numerous times. I never ask for her to be invited. I personally think its rude to ask someone if another person can come to a party. but some people dont mind they say the more the better.