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I have a list of things to put in my baby shower invitations but need a way to tell guest.?

I don't want to sound like I want everything on the list. I just need a way to tell them I want them to get what they can afford. I don't want to make it look like I am self fish.

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1. If you're throwing your own shower, you can stop worrying about looking selfish. You already do. There's so much wrong with this question, etiquette-wise, that I don't even know where to begin... There's no way to phrase something like that without making it clear that you EXPECT gifts as a condition of admission to the shower. Which you should not.
2. Go register at Babies-R-Us or target and then just let your friends know that you are registered there and they will be able to print out a list of items you selected.
3. just make your list and say something like, (this might make your shopping easier or these are the things that I have on my wish list) there is nothing wrong with giving a list, that is what people do when they register.
4. Many people now do a registry at a store such as Target. You scan the items you want, they give you nice little cards with their name to let people know where to find your list, then when they get to the store they can print your list and choose what they can get you from it. Most stores do this for weddings and baby showers. Good luck and congrats.
5. Have the host of your shower list your nursery theme or colors, a few large ticket items (people can split), and some smaller things. Also include clothing size, I had larger than newborn put on my invite. Then make sure your hostess has a list of other things so if anyone asks she can give them ideas!!
6. Complete a gift registry... You can go to the store or do it on-line with most stores. They are offered by Wal-Mart, Target, Babies-r-Us, JC Penney, Baby Depot, etc. Include the store(s) you registereed at in the shower invitation that way people will know where you are registered and they can go to the store or shop on-line for the gift(s) and price range that is right for them. I had guests from all over so I registered at 2 stores (Target & Penneys) so it would be convenient for all. Just be sure to register for different items at eachs store so you don't get duplicates. Good Luck!
7. I don't think it is any different, putting a list into an invitation, or having a registry somewhere. I would simply state; These are things we do not have yet for our precious bundle, just in case you were wondering what we may still need.
8. just put in your invitations where you are registered, that's why my family did for mine.
9. Why don't you just register, and just put on the invite "registered at X".
10. O.K. find out who is hosting the shower and let them know. Bit tacky for you to be doing the asking. Planning a baby shower for someone at work in Sept with my friend and what we are doing is asking all the guest to chip in $20 and we will provide a dinner and a good time but that money will go directly to Sandra so that she can get what she wants as she already has loads of stuff. Believe me showers are a big waste of time if all you get is things you can't use or don't like!
11. There are people who would be offended by this? Please.. Go ahead and add an insert to your invitations. If there is something you want to say to your guests before the shower, then this is the perfect way to do it. **It's funny how so many ladies think baby showers are a waste of time. Mine was wonderful. A group of 20 different women, my mom, lol, and my husband...celebrating the expectancy of our first bundle of joy! That's what baby showers are supposed to be about. Did I mention the free diapers, pack n' play, toys, homemade gifts, etc...
12. when I was given a baby shower my friends decided instead of presents people could put any amount of money or a giftcard (if they wished to) in an envolope with no name. I thought that was different and nice because nobody felt pressured into buying anything. that way they only gave what they could afford.
13. First, register at a store for the items on your list. Second, ask someone else to mail out the invitations even if it was not their idea to throw the shower for you. Ask your sister, mother or a friend so that the invitation is not coming from you. Include on the invitation "The baby is registered at 'store name'." If you can't find someone to mail them out for you, you can still register and put "The baby is registered at 'store name'" on the invitation. Your mom may not mind a shopping list inside her invitation but most people would be a little surprised.
14. Oh my god, you can't include a list of stuff you want.... If you don't want to appear selfish, don't throw yourself a baby shower, that's apalling; and do not mention gifts at all. If someone specifically asks you, you can let on you are registered somewhere, but that's it.
15. Don't listen to "Do Your Own Thinking" the baby shower is an established tradition in Western Society and it is a given that although gifts are not necessary for attendance, it is the norm to do what one can to help the new parents. There is nothing selfish in it. Anyway, I am not sure what are you hale from, but if there are Targets near you I would suggest registering there. It is easy for you, all you do is enter in your name and the date of the shower and they give you basically a pricing scanner and you scan the tags of the things you want. Then you get stickers which you can place on your invitations that say "Registered at Target" and your guest only need to go to target and enter in your name and it prints out a list of all the things you want. Once something on the list is purchased it is automatically removed from the list to prevent duplicate purchases. Now target is great not only for the simplicity of and automation of the registration but also because I'm sure you will find things that even the most conservative spenders will be able to afford. Lastly, your guests no matter what they spend will fell good knowing that what they purchase you for this exciting time is something that you actually wanted and or needed.
16. register at target, walmart, toys r us, babies r us... or any place like that. Only register for the things you need. You'll get some fluff presents anyway. We only registered for neutral colored sleep-n-plays & onesies, white socks, yellow linens, diapers, wipes, babywash, dreft detergent, carseat... stuff like that. Then most places give you those little cards that say "Tanya is registered at Babies R Us" and gives the registry number... so when people go to the store's customer service desk- or registry kiosk they can print up the list. We didn't know what we were having at first, but when we found out we decided to keep it to ourselves after my sister had told me she had gotten a ton of cute newborn girl clothes at her shower, and did not get one bottle of baby wash or package of onesies for her daughter. Once baby is born, often people will want to purchase another gift to bring to the hospital or your home when greeting the child for the first time. Then all fluff items are welcome!! at least for us that's how it worked :) I think my daughter was 4 months old when I bought my first package of diapers, and she was over a year old when we had to buy her some baby wash!!