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Should I invite them to the baby shower?

I'm currently pregnant and already have a list made out for the baby shower for my Mom and BFF to use. Thing is, I got a new job a few months ago and the ppl that i used to work with are wanting to know when my shower is. I don't really want them there. My new job is throwing my a shower of thier own, and my mom is throwing one for the huge family of mine and I don't want to add to it. What do i say or do?

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1. Have someone from your old job throw one for you. Just tell them that your mom wants a family shower, and that it would be fun to just have one with old co-workers, and tell them that they are more than welcome to throw one for you.
2. You as the mother can always tell them you don't know if/when there will be a shower since in many cases it is a surprise :) Or you can just tell them that it will just be family (you can even mention that after the shower that is was just a family thing).
3. Just tell them that you are having a shower but its really just for family and really close friends. They will understand. If they want to do something nice for you have them take you to lunch or something.
4. Just let them know that the shower you're having is for family only. Suggest maybe going out to lunch with your old co-workers instead after the baby comes so they have a chance to see it.
5. Say the shower is already booked, but you are up for another if they want to plan it!!! Is it just me or is it rude to try to invite yourself to a shower? It should be more like I was wondering if I could throw you one.
6. That's a tough one. Maybe tell them you think someone is throwing you a shower but you don't know any details. Tell them you have been so busy getting ready for the baby and you are just exhausted.
7. I have never heard of someone not wanting people at their shower. But I am sure you have your reasons. Why not ask them to just meet your for lunch or something? If they insist about the shower then you will have to answer to them. If the invites are already sent out just tell them that and also add that you didn't do the invites and you are sorry they weren't invited. But that you want to do somehting with them and explain that your new co-workers were not invited either but only family was invited. Best wishes to you!!!!
8. of course yes...just means more stuff for you...and trust me thereis no such thing as too much stuff!!! You should be glad so many people want to celebrate with you. But if you do not want your old coworkers at your big shower...maybe have a just a little one with them.
9. Personally for my shower I don't want anyone there that I don't want to be there. That is my day and I don't want unwanted or toxic people there that will ruin my day. On the other hand, I can remain humble just so I can have some extra gifts for my child. So only allow those to come that you know have class and won't spoil the shower. You want to hear something that is funny I don't like the people who is throwing my shower. So I know what you are battling on the inside. Good luck and keep me updated.
10. You're not throwing it; your mom and best friend are. Let your co-workers know you have no control over the guest list and that it will most likely consist of only family members and close friends. If they are kind enough to give you a shower of their own, there's really no reason they should be expecting to attend the other shower.