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Problem with a creepy 19 year old...help?!?

Well, in summer of 2007 I was 14, and I went to my close friend's block party. It was all fun, just me, him and a few of our other friends and some of his neighbors who are around our age hanging out in his pool and his backyard/house. Now, after a while, one of his neighbors(who was only 17 at the time), started hitting on me and stuff. At the time, I didn't mind it, because I thought he was cute and I could use the practice flirting. However, later, my friend gave me his s/n and him mine. We talked online quite a bit, and it was all fun. He was nice and stuff, but I felt like he was getting a little too interested in my personal life too quickly. Then, I went on vacation with my family for a couple of days, and he found my cell phone number in my friend's phone and started texting and calling me. ALL the time. By that point, I was getting a little weirded out by him. So, after a while, I'd had enough, so I blocked all ways for him to contact me. I didn't hear from him again after that. During July 2008, however, I went to this same block party as the year before. Again, I saw him (this time, he was 18 turning 19 in a few weeks), but this year he was a little more....withdrawn. So, I stupidly decided to talk to him, and apologize for cutting off all communications with him. After that, we began talking through instant messages a little more, and gradually we started talking multiple times a day. We were texting again, etc. But then, I started feeling a bit uncomfortable about it, because two of my close friends (the neighbor and one of his close friends) told me that he had told them that he liked me. I had suspected it anyway, but it was worse to get confirmation. He wrote me creepy poems, songs, etc. and it was really beginning to scare me. So, our mutual close friend asked him to stop talking to me unless I talked to him first. And then, I didn't hear from him much after that. But today, in the middle of class, I get a call from him. With a voicemail, where there is some background noise and then it hangs up. This happened 6 more times after this, over a 4 hour time period. I'm really beginning to get scared, because 1. why would he still have me in his contact list? 2. he's 19 and I'm only 15, and 3. I don't want him to talk to me anymore. I haven't talked to him since mid-august, so I really don't understand why I would even be in his contact list still. What should I do? I'm really feeling a tad violated, he knows a lot about me that I never told him; he confided this in his neighbor who, in turn, told me about this. What should I do?!

Public Comments

1. dude how long did it take u to write that
2. Go to the police!! and have your number changed
3. That is absolutely creepy. That age difference is a little much, but also, he seems to be a little obsessed. I would first tell him yourself you are not interested, be very clear, but not mean. If he keeps being creepy, tell your parents or someone else if you feel unsafe.
4. Just tell him to leave you alone. Then tell your parents. Or you could end up one of the many missing young ladies in this world who end up coming home in a pine box.
5. sweetie you should probably tell your parents so they can let him know he shouldnt be calling you he is too old so then its off your shoulders, and you wont have to feel so bad or worry about telling him i know thats hard. And i think you should not have been so chummy with him the secound time around because you knew the first time you didnt like how he made you feel. try to learn from this take it slow with boys, and dont get so close so fast trust me you have along time to be with anybody! Oh anybody your age!
6. ignore... best thing to do.... he will eventuly stop...
7. ok...i realli understand that u were feelin a little bad after cuttin him off like that(+ thats y u were tlkin to him at the block party) BUT the best thing to do is to trust ur instints like u were doin b4 sooo... 1)sumthin simply doesnt sound rite about dis guy so completely cut him out [+ u no those lil block parties u like so much stay away frm him as much as possible +stay with sum1 the whole time] 2)yea the age diff. is HUGE n that shud tell u sumthin like y doesnt he lik grls HIS AGE n more impartanly y dnt grls his age like him... + 3)dnt let him play the pity card on u nxt time dnt bak dwn r give n...u stopped tlkin to this kid 4 a reason + a good 1 too...jus remember that