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Am I in danger of soon being stalked? Maybe I'm already being stalked? HELP!?

Well, in summer of 2007 I was 14, and I went to my close friend's block party. It was all fun, just me, him and a few of our other friends and some of his neighbors who are around our age hanging out in his pool and his backyard/house. Now, after a while, one of his neighbors(who was only 17 at the time), started hitting on me and stuff. At the time, I didn't mind it, because I thought he was cute and I could use the practice flirting. However, later, my friend gave me his s/n and him mine. We talked online quite a bit, and it was all fun. He was nice and stuff, but I felt like he was getting a little too interested in my personal life too quickly. Then, I went on vacation with my family for a couple of days, and he found my cell phone number in my friend's phone and started texting and calling me. ALL the time. By that point, I was getting a little weirded out by him. So, after a while, I'd had enough, so I blocked all ways for him to contact me. I didn't hear from him again after that. During July 2008, however, I went to this same block party as the year before. Again, I saw him (this time, he was 18 turning 19 in a few weeks), but this year he was a little more....withdrawn. So, I stupidly decided to talk to him, and apologize for cutting off all communications with him. After that, we began talking through instant messages a little more, and gradually we started talking multiple times a day. We were texting again, etc. But then, I started feeling a bit uncomfortable about it, because two of my close friends (the neighbor and one of his close friends) told me that he had told them that he liked me. I had suspected it anyway, but it was worse to get confirmation. He wrote me creepy poems, songs, etc. and it was really beginning to scare me. So, our mutual close friend asked him to stop talking to me unless I talked to him first. And then, I didn't hear from him much after that. But today, in the middle of class, I get a call from him. With a voicemail, where there is some background noise and then it hangs up. This happened 6 more times after this, over a 4 hour time period. I'm really beginning to get scared, because 1. why would he still have me in his contact list? 2. he's 19 and I'm only 15, and 3. I don't want him to talk to me anymore. I haven't talked to him since mid-august, so I really don't understand why I would even be in his contact list still. What should I do? I'm really feeling a tad violated, he knows a lot about me that I never told him; he confided this in his neighbor who, in turn, told me about this. What should I do?!

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1. YOU need to talk to your PARENTS ASAP and tell them what is going on! Also, stop leading him on, if he does hurt you, it could be hard to prove you weren't a large part of the problem. Also, you are 15, maybe your focus should be on something more productive. Take care of yourself.
2. Stay as far away from him as you can. He wants something more than wanting to be your friend. If you know what I mean. Four years difference in age is a lot. If you were 20, it would be different, but you are 15, and vulnerable. If you intend on seeing or being around him at all, do so with friends with you at all times. That way your safe. Hope this helps Stay safe, and Blessed Be
3. Just dont respond, it seems when you cut him out he gets the hint but when you start responding that is when he gets WAY more interested. He may just be trying to get you talking to him again and this could be his excuse, but if he keeps calling or harrasing you you should definitely tell someone like your parents or a school counselor.
4. This guy is dangerous. It won't get better. It will only get worse. Talk to your parents. Have them send him a written letter, on paper - no voicemails, texts, emails, etc. They must tell him that he is forbidden to contact you ever again. He is forbidden to call you, text you, IM you, email you, approach you in person, or set foot on their property. If he violates these rules in any way, your parents will have him arrested for harrassment of a minor. Send the letter by certified mail, return receipt requested. If he contacts you again, contact the police. If he calls you DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE. Delete his emails.
5. You're right, apologising to him was stupid - but it's been done now. All you can do is block him on your phone again. The age difference isn't huge, but you are only 15 - still too young for him. Best thing to do is change your phone number and e-mail address, and don't talk to him ever again. Stop asking your friends about him, because they probably tell him about it and he might see that as a sign you're still interested in him. Don't give him any false hope. Just pretend he doesn't exist. You should let your parents know what's going on. Good luck! :-)
6. Girl this sounds serious and first you need to let your parents know and then you guys can contact the police and if I were you I would suggest filing a no contact order against him. This is really easy to do. Go to your local court and get a motion filed a court date will be set if they approve it and then he will be order to have no contact with you and if he violates it he ca get arrested for doing so. I hope this is helpful information. Good luck