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Dating (on-line/personals/in-person) has this happened to you?

Ok i don't know if i'm the only person who this happens to but it is getting OLD! It doesn't seam to mater how i "meet" some one -On line/personals (crags list, plenty of fish ETC) -in-person (coffee shop, club, collage ETC) Some how that person is taken (and lies to me about it) the only reason i even find out (like to day) is the dumb man leaves his cell with texts out and the Girl friend (that i didn't know he had) contacts me and starts calling me names when it is the guy who is the scum bag up to this point all of the below have happened... -She finds his cell with texts and calls me -I'm out with a guy at the movies/dinner thing and she shows up (i have been hit) -she goes through his email and gets my number and calls me and acts like its my fault even thou he replayed to my Singles add and told me in the email (that she read) that he was Single I mean dose this happen to any one but me, Dose any one have and suggestions on how to avoid the happening? Or if this has happened to you can you tell me what happened, and i would really love to know if only guys do this or do girls pull it too? thank you I'm 22 and in college, and i feel that i need to say that i see on line dating and meeting someone in the real world as equally risky jim simply because the same people i meet on line i could meet at school or the mall. the only difference is that on line i can "talk" to a person 1st and i can just stop replying to emails where in the "real world" i may have to stop going to the place i met the person becaus they know i go there or they see my car and get the LP# and track me down that way... Also i never post my pic. so do you see why a person may prefer online dating to the bar or club thing.

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1. maybe u could make this scenario part of your ad from now on and asking the potential date if this is something that they feel is going to happen....and if not why not good luck
2. Oh wow...you have my sympathy on this! First things first...this is not your fault! I really hope you don't feel that you are to blame in any of this! You have done nothing wrong except put a little faith (and hope and trust) in someone...many of us out there aren't even that strong! I wish I could give some brilliant insight in to how to avoid this from happening. All I can think of is that you simply need to keep trying. Maybe try some place like www.meetmarketadventures (in Canada and the US) which caters to singles looking for friends and more. They offer events throughout the week with smaller groups so you're meeting people in a group environment and can find someone else to talk with should the first person start eminating some iffy vibes. The only thing that happened to me was when I finally met an online "friend" in person, he said "I only use acid for social events." Charming...lovely...I have to be somewhere else now...couldn't get out of that place fast enough for my liking! *lol* He wanted a drive home. I gave a quarter to call someone. I don't think this kind of behaviour is limited to only one gender. Often times, things might be a bit stale in a current relationship and we think that a little fling on the side will help spice things up. Keep in mind that you're not the one who has committed to be in a relationship to the other person. You are not at fault...keep being strong!
3. Tnight! Why are you looking on line? That is possibly one of the most dangerous things that you can do. I don't know how old you are but if I were single I would be joining some youth groups and I would find a church that I would find to my liking and get involved it their activities. Much safer and you would quickly find our who is married and who isn't. All you need to do is to watch your TV and read the news paper to see what it is that I am talking about! too many young people getting killed, robbed, raped, etc. The things that I suggested are a heck of a lot healthier and safer! Good Luck and God Bless! Jim B.