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Baby Shower Guest List? Rude or not?

I know it's still early, but I need some help. My sisters are throwing my baby shower closer to my due date. They have already done some planning and asked for a guest list to get an idea of how many people would be attending. I am not sure who to invite and who to not invite. i don't want to hurt peoples feelings by not inviting them, but I don't want to seem greedy, either. I saw a girl I went to school with at JcPenny and she asked when the shower was and said she couldn't wait. We were close in school, but have drifted apart. I have only seen most of my friends a handful of times since we graduated (2007) but we do talk occasionally online. Should I invite them and let them decide to come or not, or not invite them and risk them being offended? I would still go to any of their showers if they were having one, if that helps. I still love them to death, we just don't see each other much. Should I take my one friends feelings on it as a sign that is how everyone will feel? I don't want to be tacky or hurtful. Help!

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1. I would invite them. They would probably be hurt if you didn't. you can always try to hang out with them more often until your shower...Then I'm sure they'd be happy to come!
2. I would invite them that way you give them the option to come or not. That way if they don't it's not their feelings that are hurt, and yours won't be either because you were thinking of not inviting them. This may be a good way to spark up those friendships also. PS that isn't being greedy.....especially understanding your motive. Hope this helps you out some. CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!
3. I think you should invite them. You said you don't see them much, but you still love them to death. That would be a GREAT time to spend some time with them and rekindle your friendship. You're in NO way being tacky or looking selfish, but at least have the invitation out there if you want to spend some time with them. They can come if they want, or not come.
4. trust me invite everyone you can, b/c alot of people will just send a card or gift and not come to the shower, i gave people 2 months notice, and only ended up with 5 people coming out of 25 guests. 34 weeks pregnant
5. Sure - why not invite them? They're under no obligation to come, and most people would be pleased that you thought enough of them to share this special event in your life. The invitation is not coming from you, so it doesn't make you look greedy. Who knows - it might be an incentive to start seeing some of those people and have fun together again.
6. Invite as many people as you can...the more presents for you!
7. It is your party and your day- invite who you want. I had the same thing happen to me but I only invited the people closest to me. I am glad I did too. You can't invite everyone and if they don't understand that is a shame.
8. Invite them and let them decide if they want to come. But invite the friend you saw at JC Penney at least...she already said she can't wait to go!
9. If you would go to their showers then invite them. If you would not attend a shower for someone then don't invite them.
10. you should invite whoever you want. forget about their feelings. its YOUR shower. sounds kinda bitchy, but if you don't want someone to come, dont invite them. just remember...the more people who come, the more gifts you receive and less you'll have to buy :) have fun at your shower!! i never got one :( and i'm 34 weeks now.
11. I invited everyone I knew, not to be greedy, but to let them know they were more than welcome to celebrate with us. A LOT of people showed up. I saw people I hadn't seen in years, and it ended up being a nice reunion. We had it "open house" style so people could come and go, and also invited men and women. It was very casual which was nice. I'm not really into the foo foo baby games and stuff so it was more relaxing. I think it's more offensive to not invite someone who wants to go honestly.. because it's their choice ultimately to attend or not.
12. Invite them all! Everybody loves to anticipate a baby, and you may be one of the first from your group of school friends to have this blessing and they're all dying to be a part of it -- anyone who doesn't want to come won't, an invitation is just that -- an invitation. Just don't let your feelings be hurt if someone does decide not to show!
13. I also have friends who I am not close with anymore but would still feel offended if they didn't invite me to an event of theirs. I suggest you invite them, it won't make you look greedy, it just makes you look like you want to include them in your life even though you aren't as close as you used to be. When I had my first child (I was 21) I had a shower and invited all of my friends from high school even though we weren't very close anymore. Most of them came and were happy to be invited so we could catch up and they could be included in my big event! So invite them!