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our wedding list keeps growing and growing?

we started out with a limit of 60 guests now the guest list is up to 80 people! we cant cut anyone we have limited it to no kids or cousins we dont see. Its all grandparents, aunts, uncles, bros, sisters and good mates we see atleast 4 times a week. We didnt invite mates we see every now and then. Should we expect everyone to come? we dont really want a big wedding but its turning out that way

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1. Well typical weddings have about a 10% no show rate. So expect about 8 people not to come (approx, could be more could be less). Otherwise, looks like you're having 80 people. Don't worry 80 is still pretty small.
2. oh goodness =D
3. i helped my friend run down her wedding list this week... she ended up writing 150 names... i hope you feel better!
4. Sounds like its still a pretty small wedding . . . unless you are under a financial crunch I would say don't invite people you aren't close to cuz there is no point in that . . . but at the same time dont start purposely trying to find gaps in friendships to put friends in the 'not close' category just to keep your wedding small... Good luck and I hope u have an amazing wedding!
5. I have to agree, 80 is small. My initial guestlist was 220, then we scaled back to 195. We did one more round of cuts and are finally down to 160 and we already know that 15 of those aren't going to come. If you have a large family and numerous friends, you will need to invite them. I think your limitations kids and cousins is more than fair. I wouldn't worry too much.
6. Not everyone will come, it will all depend on the time of year etc. Go over the list again and see if you can cut it back. If you can cut it back more remember to have a reserve list of people who you can invite at the last minute. It is a very average list really.
7. When you send your invites, tell them that you have invited 80 people but can only seat 60. So the first 60 people to RSVP get to come and the last 20 do not.
8. Yes, 80 people might seem like a small wedding to most, but it's really about whether you consider it too big and what you can accommodate. I hear that often 10-20% of invited guests don't come. However, you can't rely on that, especially if you have a tight space for the ceremony and can only fit 60 people in...in that case, you should expect all 80 will show up just to be safe and prepared. Realistically, probably not everyone will come, but you can't count on that.