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How do you invite someone to the shower after the wedding?

I had a very very small wedding that was just his family and less than 10 guests. Now some of the ladies from church (both of whom were invited to the ceremony) want to throw me an after-the-fact wedding shower. These two ladies are long time friends and watched (and helped) me grow up, and they asked me to compile a guest list for the shower. Who can I invite to this sort of event, without offending people because they weren't invited to the ceremony? I REALLY don't want it to seem like I am trolling for gifts. What do you guys think?

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1. Well let people know that you had a small wedding but you would like to share the good news and celebrate with them. You can also make people aware that gifts are optional so it seems that gifts are not your primary intention.
2. Even though you may now want it to come across as your after gifts, it sounds like your after gifts. Considering the fact it was a very small wedding most people may be offended by the fact they weren't invited to the special day but now you want them to come to a shower. I would try to invite some and just make sure they know your not after gifts. But don't be surprised if a lot don't show up.
3. Go back to the ladies who want to give you the shower. Tell them your concern, and ask them to help you draw up the list. Invite people who know the hostesses. This is so very nice, showers are properly given from the heart and not out of obligation! Congratulations to you for having two dear friends.
4. Sorry to say that even though these ladies are very sweet and want to do something nice for you...and after the wedding shower comes across as very tacky and like a gift grab. You already got married, had a very small wedding and now people are expected to come with a gift. I think rather then a shower maybe they could throw you a congrats luncheon. They could do tea and sandwiches and little desserts where you can gather with a few friends and it doesnt look or sound like people are expected to bring a gift (though some might) and you can bring pictures to show people and such. I think that would come across better then calling it a shower.
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6. i had a small ceremony and only close friends family were invited. After the wedding we had a "reception" but it was a picnic/pig roast. We celebrated with our complete families and friends and we just called it a celebration. People understand with the price of wedding and such that people do small weddings separate from the after math celebration. It all depends on the wording. Don't say its a shower and you will avoid the gift expectations. You can celebrate your wonderful commitment without gifts.
7. Hello, This might seem like a better idea. I would ask if the party could be converted to something of a small reception or Jack and Jill to celebrate the recent nuptiuals, it would be pretty much the same thing (cake punch, msandwhich wraps) just with men there. A shower is intended as a "showering of gifts". I do not believe for one second that you are "trolling for gifts". I understand you just want to share your good news with friends and family that were not able to join you.
8. Hey, are you sure about the usando also means wearing??? Thanks you so much !