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How do i word my wedding list?

Hi all, how would you word my wedding list? We've been living together for ages and have everything we want. As bad as it sounds we don't need anything other than dollars for the honeymoon and cash for home improvements! how do you say that on a wedding list without sounding like a money grabber? In these times we don't even expect a gift but a few people have asked. Any help would be much appreciated because i don't know what to say!

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1. You can't without it sounding like a money grab. The only way would be to not have a registry, or a very small one, and have your bridal party casually mention that you really don't need gifts as you have everything. Remember, it's not required to bring a gift to a wedding, it's only etiquette that (highly) suggests it, so you may not get a lot of money or gifts. Congrats and good luck!
2. We just spread word by mouth since it's bad etiquette to list that on invitations and stuff. We told our parents and bridal party that if any one asks, tell them we would really like money to upgrade our honeymoon. We ended up getting $3000... it was great and we got to upgrade or honeymoon and had some cash left over.
3. put a note in the invitation saying that gifts are not required their company is. Most people attending the wedding should know you and your situation and will probably just put money in for you. Good luck.
4. If you mean what do you do about a registry, the usual thing is to register for dozens and dozens of bath linens: towels, hand cloths, and everything. Then you return all but one or two sets for cash. Afterwards, your nosey aunt will know that those aren't the fancy blue towels SHE bought for you, but are the identical fancy blue towels someone else bought for you.
5. You don't. Sorry, but you just don't. Any way you try to do it is tacky and greedy .. not to mention rude. You don't have to register anywhere. If someone asks your family what you'd like, your family can then say something like, "Well, I think they'd like to do some home improvements," or something along the lines of, "A cash gift would be okay, if you'd like to give them a gift." But never, ever ask for gifts. And if people happen to get you a new lawnmower or a set of tools, you can always return them for a store credit or use the gift receipt to buy what you want.
6. put a poem in with the invite saying basically that you want your honeymoon as your gift. sure there'd be some on the internet you could pinch....
7. hello i know how you feel because we did the same thing, as we too wanted money for a honeymoon. we put a slip of paper into the invite with a picture on saying something like. we haven't done a wedding list as we have been living together long enough.. but if you feel you want to buy us a gift we are collecting money to put towards a honeymoon. If anybody tells you its tacky to ask for money its not.. i know loads of people that do it. even my brother is asking for money and they are having like the wedding of the year. good luck