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does having a wedding gifts list appropriate? i mean, listing gifts that others should buy for you?

is it appropriate to list all the things that you wish for as your wedding presents from others? its like asking others to buy specific presents for you. in the other hand, it could be helpful for others to find a prefect gift for your wedding. what do you think?

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1. It's totally appropriate. That's what Gift Registries are for! :)
2. You will be branded to be after gifts and that you will be bad to may pple
3. wedding gifts shouldnt be arranged. its a special day which is full of surprises and what ever you get you'll get use out of it
4. I think it's ok to register for things at a store and to let people know that you did. Then it's up to them if they want to pick something from that list or go with their own idea.
5. no. If somone asks, then you can tell them. The proper thing to do is to "register" at different stores for different things. Most any store has a gift registry. When you register with stores you pick gifts that you want and they put them on a list. Then when people come to shop for you, the store tells them what you want. The typical prodical is to include a listing of where you are registered in your announcements. Some people think it is rude to even list where you are registered in your announcements. They expect to be told only when and if they RSVP. I wouldn't worry too much about it though, because 85% of the announcements I get include where they are registered.
6. Well I didn't register any where because we already have everything we need for the house. Now with the wedding 5 weeks away my guests keep calling myself and my grandmother wanting to know where I'm register. When they find out I didn't register they starting asking lots of questions about what we want and we have nothing to tell them. So I would register some where or you will be playing 20 questions with every guest. Good luck and congrats!
7. It may sound slightly rude to some people who never had that experience before, but it is common these days and very practical for couples who are getting married so it's perfectly fine. Of course you don't want to end up getting loads of same presents/stuff from different people. As long you don't ask presents that are too pricy, so think about general budget (budget range) that they would spend the most.
8. Totally appropriate. Better than them getting you something you are just not gonna do anything with.
9. it's commonly accepted today and many people do do it. personally i (and many others) find it totally inappropriate. imagine if someone sent a list of things out to their friends of what they want for their birthday or for christmas? it's the same thing and it's totally rude (not as rude as asking for money though, that's the most horrific etiquette breech on earth). before gift registers were invented people just told their mum's, siblings and those in the bridal party things like the colour scheme of their house, if there was anything they already had or would like and then if anyone was stuck for a gift they could ask these people and they could offer ideas or let them know what colour would be good,etc. there's nothing rude about that and it basically has the same effect. but it really is extremely inappropriate to tell people what to buy you. many people say it's just a suggestion but it basically suggests if it's not on that list you don't want it and won't appreciate it. very rude.
10. I have heard of this idea,and its a good way of getting your home setup well, so i suggest that you give everybody a choice of 3 things in the area of what you want and let then pick what they want or can afford. all the best wishes for you wedding day
11. People make gift registries all the time.
12. These days, it's pretty common to have a gift registry with stores. As a matter of fact, I don't know anyone who's gotten married in the past decade that hasn't had one. Makes perfect sense to me, and I don't find it rude or inappropriate at all.
13. If you don't register you will wind up with a million picture frames, candlesticks and mismatched towels and appliances. Most people don't give cash. At least if you register you'll get what you want and can return it for a store credit.
14. If someone asks you what gift you would like, then it's OK to tell them. If they haven't asked, it is not very polite for you bring up the topic. That is why it is incorrect to put registry cards in your invitations. If someone asks, you need to give them general guideline, not a list of specific items. For instance you might say "We need bath linens in royal blue and white. And of course we welcome contributions to the honeymoon fund." That is why there are registries, so that you can specify which exact bath towels, shower curtain, etc you would like. If someone asks what sort of gift you'd like, it is OK to tell them "We are registered at Target." Of course people are still free to give you gifts that are not listed on your registry. Yours is a list of helpful suggestions, not a list of demands.
15. hi, welcome to earth, it's called a wedding registry. people do it all the time. go to any department store and you can make a list of all the gifts you want. then you tell your guests (discreetly) to go to that store and look up your list. then they know exactly what to get you, or they can get you a gift card to that store so you can go back after your wedding and buy the stuff yourself.
16. It is absolutely fine to have a gift registry. For years the etiquette people went back and forth over whether it's OK or not, but they finally have decided that it is 100% correct to do so. However, there are a few guidelines with registering for gifts so you don't accidentally veer off into tacky territory: 1) Don't register at any more than 3 stores. It is helpful to guests to give them a variety of stores to choose a gift from, but any more than 3 stores and it looks more like a gift grab than a helpful suggestion. 2) Register for gifts in various price ranges. I can't tell you how many weddings I've attended where the bride and groom registered for nothing but hoity-toity gifts over $300 apiece. One bride I knew had nothing at all on her registry under $75! For a struggling administrative assistant living paycheck to paycheck, this was a huge deal for me. Stick to mainstream stores virtually everyone can afford, like Target and Bed Bath and Beyond. If you have expensive tastes, go ahead and open a registry at a high-end store like Williams-Sonoma, but please remember to put some $15 measuring cups amid the $400 toasters so everyone can afford something. 3) (This is the most important one!) DO NOT, ever, no matter what, mention any gift or registry info on your invitations!! You may put registry info on your wedding website if you have one, and your bridesmaids may put registry info in your bridal shower invites, but no mention of gifts must ever be made in the actual wedding invitation itself. Giving a wedding gift is still optional, even though of course most guests will want to give you something for the occasion. The best way to get the word out about your registries is word of mouth. Have your bridesmaids and mother tell anyone who asks where you are registered.
17. Wedding registries are what you use, however, realize that some people will not use the registry at all, so don't get your life to het up on it.