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Stay at home mom - feeling unappreciated?

I don't know if this is common feeling for stay at home moms or what, but I feel unappreciated and not valued at times. My daughter is 1 yr old and I've always worked in the past. Currently I am collecting unemployment so it does bring money in (pretty much the same as if I was working minus childcare). I also run a small cleaning company where I bring around $500 per month, and help husbands business (write estimates, all online advertising - which is his only source of business, and he's doing very well). On top of that I take care of the house (cooking, cleaning, etc), and our daughter of course. I think that I have a lot on my plate, but feel like my husband doesn't think so. Is this a common feeling for stay at home moms? What can I do to help my husband see that I work hard too?

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1. if u dont care for ur self no one will.
2. a person tends to appreciate more when they realize what they have lost. You may have to cut back on how much you help him. The overwhelming feeling he goes through may help him come to that understanding but not a guarantee.
3. You have two mature routes to take, you choose: 1. Switch with him for a day. Even if it is a weekend day and you simulate doing his work as he does yours. He feels your rush, if he does it well and you get a day of rest. 2. Work less and ask for his help when he notices things not getting done...this way takes longer and usually causes tension. Men hate to eat dinner late or can't find clean undies....God forbid they wash a load or dish when they are not use to it. Good luck 3. Not a route to take; but, a must do: If you can't change your situation, change your attitude. Self validate your worth by telling him in detail what you did today. everyday. Run it in the hole. Toot your own work and accomplishments...down to folding clothes and putting them away, instead of leaving them in a basket overnight. It is normal the way you feel and you are not the LONE RANGER, it has been happening to stay at home Moms for years. At lease you had a job...some women have never worked and stay at home. Feel sorry for them...not yourself...you got a lot going for you. Toot-Toot
4. You are NOT the only stay at home mom who feels bad. If your husband is making you feel bad about staying at home, then just tell him how you feel and if he doesn't understand then maybe you should find someone who does apprciate you. It is natural for you to feel the way you do but just remeber it is about what you want and if staying at home makes you heppy then don't let anyone stand in the way of that. Hopefully your husband will understand how much you do, and remember so many women these days are never appriciated for what they do. So just talk to your husband and follow your own path. Hope I helped!
5. The best way to show him exactly what u do is by NOT doing it YUPP dont clean or cook for a day and hell come home being so confused and ask you why didnt u do anything all day and that when u shove ur foot up his ass and let him kno that ur not an animal