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What can I do, I feel so depressed and discouraged?

My husband always makes me feel guilty for not having a job, even though I have applied everywhere, two or three times at each location, in person and online, and at businesses with various locations. He's in the military so he gets a good amount of money for living expenses, and for me as I am considered a dependent. We could easily live with just his income if we cut out some of the frivolous expenses we have, but saving money would be hard and we need to since we are moving to a new city next year and will be going to school. I just don't know what to do. I have plenty of experience in retail, customer service and management, and I can't even get hired for part-time work, even for the holidays! I'm just so discouraged and feel like I'm worthless, then on top of it my husband makes me feel bad for "barely contributing" to anything besides minor bills and the housework. Another thing I don't believe is right is he wants to get a puppy, which takes a lot of money and supervision, so I'd have to be home during the day to watch it (leaving me to have to work at night). So I think it doesn't make sense for him to make me feel bad for not working or paying bills and wanting to save money, but he wants to get a dog and me to be home with it? What can I do? BTW He always apologizes to me after the rant he goes on about me not having a job, and all that, but it always comes up again a day or two later. So it doesn't help talking to him about it and respecting me, or that I know what he's going to say or how he feels about me not having a job. Advice or words of wisdom? Thanks

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1. Put your foot down about the dog. Tell him you will not have time to take care of it properly because your full-time job right now is looking for a job. Keep looking...there have to be many seasonal positions about to open up. I'm sure you will find something. Just don't give up!
2. since you are at home right now anyway,let him get his puppy and you can take care of it and prove to him that you are trying to contribute to the house even if you cant find work,make him happy,you can get a kennel and lock the puppy up when you get frustrated or tired of it
3. Have your tried going to the Family Support Center on base? Every base should have one (might be called something else) but they can help spouses find a job and you can even get preferential hiring because you are a military spouse.
4. Don't bring a puppy into this situation, maybe down the road, and you need to apply at several employment agencies, I have never been out of work for longer than 2 1/2 months, I applied at 6-7 employment agencies and online, Monster, Yahoo, etc and followed up on all of them several times a week. You need to be more aggressive and update your resume and go to your local community college and brush up on your skills so you are more marketable. The college can also help you find a job, maybe a job at the college, but you need to be much more determined.
5. You havent told us what YOUR problem is, sweetheart. There's ALWAYS a job - perhaps just part time - for the young. Not great jobs, but always SOMETHING. Towtruck or taxicab dispatcher at night, parking lot cashier, SOMETHING. You cant get ANYTHING from ANYONE? Do you have a criminal record?