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Ended a long friend ship, now being harassed.?

First of all, I am so sorry for how long this turned out to be. I really needed to get a lot off of my shoulders. I have been friends with a girl for about 11 years now. We met in elementary school and grew up together. Our whole friendship has been dreadful on me, and I will say the only reason I stayed friends with her so long is because when growing up, I was teased a lot and she was my only friend. Now I am married to a wonderful man and expecting our first baby. She got pregnant young, with a man 10 years older than her. I adore and love her daughter, but I just can not have this girl in my life any more. I am not sure if she has a jealousy issue, or what her problem has been, but all of these years she found ways to drag me down. When I was 12, my dad began a cocain addiction. It was very hard on me, and I became very suicidal. It was a stage I was able to pull out of, and move on, but in a fight we had last year, she brought up how she wishes I would go snort coke with my dad. Mind you, we are adults now, and my dad still has this addiction. I put up with her very rude remarks. Every time I would stand up for my self when she put me down, she would tell me that I should commit suicide. Now, over the years she has matured some, but not enough that I can be friends with her. I am a very nice natured girl, and I hate to say these things about her. Her and I live about twenty minutes apart. She refuses to get a job or drivers license, but her boyfriend has one. There really is no effort on her side to try and hang out, but I will always invite her to our game nights, or dinner. She never ends up being able to make it. I never had a problem with this, but the thing is, she will go on all of our networking sites saying that she can not stand when friends won't go and pick her up to hang out. She always tries to offend me through bulletins and posts. She won't make them directly at me, but it is in plain sight that they are. She asks me how I am doing, and how my photography business is doing, and how my husband and I are doing, and when I respond, she sends out a post saying how she doesn't care how great my life is, and all this stuff that I really can not bring my self to understand. She is very competitive as well. When she asks me what is new and I tell her, she has to top it off. Now I can deal with her being mean to me, saying harsh things about me, but now she is saying things about my husband. My husband recently lost his job, and although we are doing very fine with money right now, he feels very bad that he is not the one supporting his family. She recently sent out another post saying that her friends husband is a low life and needs to step up to the plate and that this mans wife needs to stop motivating him because he should be doing it himself. Like I said, it is never directed to me, but it is plain to see who she is talking about. My husband won't say, but I know this hurt him. This is where my line was crossed. I decided to just end our friendship. I confronted her about the last post she did about my husband, and of coarse to no avail, she denied it had anything to do with me. She can't tell me the problem she has with me first hand, she has to go post it around to every one. I am not trying to be rude or offensive, but her boyfriend works at pizza hut, and they live with her parents rent free. I can't even believe I am being rude about her now, my nature is always nice, but I can not handle her anymore. I finally brought my self to delete and block her off of all of my networking sites. I posted a blog which she reads saying that I am having a fresh start. I never said anything rude about her, or any one she cares about. It was basically my way of letting her know I am done. She texted me for three or four days before reading the blog asking me why I was so upset, and I decided it would be best for me not to text her back. I haven't spoken or wrote her in a week. After she read my blog, she started texting me non-stop. She texted me last night at 2 in the morning, til three in the morning. Text after text saying that I am a horrible person, I deserved to lose every one in my life (dad), and more and more. I continued to just delete and not send her anything back. She was really offending and hurting my feelings, but I know texting her back would make it worst. She than started texting me again today, even more rude things, and than had her adult boyfriend text me calling me and ugly cun*, and a stupid bitc*. Finally, I gave up and blocked her number. She is now logging on to other peoples net working sites (her family, with there permission) and writing me over and over. I can't seem to get away. What can I do to get her to stop? My husband is getting very angry about this and wants to say something, but I really just want to end all means of contact. What can I do? Sorry this is so long, I need to vent and give you the story. After ending our friendship, I feel the weight of the wor

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1. Call the police.It really does work.She will get the message loud and clear.Sounds like she may have mental problems.Good luck!
2. One way you can get her to move on ---hopefully is the next time she contacts you--send her a text that says "please don't contact me anymore" Or simply delete it. Block her texts from your phone and her emails from your inbox--each instructions for this is under the "help" section in your manual. I saw that you did this in other areas--so just continue. Another option if she continues is to tell her that the next time she contacts you, you will call the police. Why? You are being verbally assulted when she and her bf call you bad names. These in most areas are punishable by law. One way you can help yourself here is save these texts or write them down--when they came in--EXACTLY what they said--and how many at a time. She's hurt--so you can accept that she is reacting and will react til you react. If you continue to react--you will be seen from the police as possibly instigating things. I'd suggest that you stop reacting all together. And stop complaining about it to your loved ones--who will react by reacting to the offender. If you get more action from her that brings more worry to you--then you do need to go to the police and file a formal complaint. This will allow the police to go and investigate the formal complaint. All of what happened will come out--what you said--what she said--so its best if you do this--to be up front that you DID react! It will make you look better in the long run. It's also best to bring up the main reason you stopped speaking--you mention it above when you say: "She recently sent out another post saying that her friends husband is a low life and needs to step up to the plate and that this mans wife needs to stop motivating him because he should be doing it himself. Like I said, it is never directed to me, but it is plain to see who she is talking about. My husband won't say, but I know this hurt him. This is where my line was crossed. I decided to just end our friendship." Also keep in mind that you are both attacking each other very passive aggressively up until now. She with her blog--and then you with yours. And now her with her texts. Nip this in the BUD as soon as possible! And that MAYBE just completely ignoring her and if she continues contact the police for a formal complaint. This is not a charge--this is where the police investigate and if they find enough criminal acts they will lay charges--that said--be careful--you are also being investigated as well. Which is why it's best to be up front & come with notes and nip this in the bud as soon as possible so you are in the right.