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wedding with no wedding list?

I'm invited to my cousin's wedding on June 2nd and they have no gift register. Does this mean I shouldn't take anything or just nothing big? I was thinking I'd take something for their baby (8 months old now) as it was not an overt 'wedding' gift yet I wouldn't turn up empty handed just in case. If I do turn up to see a table of gifts, is it bad form to drop off a gift the following week?

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Take a generic gift card (WalMart or Target or someplace like that) in a wedding greeting card. That way, if they aren't expecting gifts, you can say "I put a little something for the baby in there." But if they are expecting gifts, then you're covered. :) Good luck! :)
SHOULD ALWEAYS GIVE A WEE PRESANT ,, BUT ASK THE BRIDE ON THE SIDE , WHAT SHE WOULD LIKE YOU TO GET.
just cos theres no list doesnt mean they dont want presents, just means they dont feel the need to tell people what to buy. i personally wouldnt have a list, i feel its rude to tell people what to do
give them money
If they did not register anywhere it's possible they are wanting money instead of a gift
when theres no wedding list just means that they are gonna be grateful for anything they receive i think a gift for the baby is a good idea
You could try asking them - just say you would like to bring a gift to celebrate their marriage, is there anything they would like or would they like vouchers towards something ? I think it would be bad form to show up empty handed.
why don't you simply give them a gift card or some cash...money is a great gift!
Maybe you could ask the uncle or aunt whether their offspring is expecting presents or not rather than having to approach the happy couple directly. If I was you I would want to know before hand what was happening with the presents so I didn't embarrass either myself or those getting married
for the most part, when there is no registry, it means that they'd rather have a monetary gift. it's like the "wishing well" wedding. It's for couples that already live together that don't need stuff.
When a couple doesn't register for wedding gifts, it is usually a sign that they would rather receive money. Just get a nice card, and put either money or a gift card in there.
Okay they have a baby. So I would suggest gift certificate(s) to restaurants. This way they can get a babysitter and enjoy a night out at your expense. Put it in a nice card. Believe me you won't be the only person to bring a gift.
Even if the bride & groom didn't register - you should never go to a wedding empty handed. I would eiether bring a card with cash - a Gift card to a department or specialty store or something along those lines. I wouldn't personally bring a gift for their baby to their wedding because it is their special day (and in 4 months the baby will be turing 1 you can get a gift then!) There are also generic wedding gifts like picture frames, personalized albums or something to help them remember this wonderful day! Good luck and use your judgement - you know the couple better than any of us! *Mandie
Give them cash or a gift card. Those are always appreciated!
Good for them. We didn't have a gift registry either, that does not mean gifts are not welcome, you just get to choose what to bring. Yes, take along a gift, something you think they might like. It is NOT the time to take the baby gift, unless you give it the next day or something.
Do not give them a baby gift,. This is a wedding and not a baby shower. Do not show up empty handed either, it's rude. If they don't have a registry, then more tan likely they are hoping for cash or gift cards, and since they are already established and have a baby, it makes a lot of sense. Good luck
It doesn't mean they don't want gifts, it only means they didn't register. You are still expected to bring a gift to a wedding. The gift for the baby is not a wedding gift.
Kudos to your cousin! They're getting married and already have a kid. They understand they shouldn't be registering for gifts b/c they have already started their life together. If only more people were like this. By all means bring a gift. Pick out something you think they would like. Something that matches their taste. Any of the traditional (or not so traditional) wedding gifts will do. Please don't bring something for the baby. Buy the couple a gift. It's their wedding, not the baby's event.
Since it's a wedding, don't bring a baby gift... that'd make it a baby shower present. I'd ask your aunt's advice about her daughter's household needs, if she knows, or just ask your cousin. The gift card idea is increasingly popular, for good reason. It eliminates having to return 12 serving trays (like I had to do) and lets the wedding couple fill in the gaps with items they really need and you'd never think of. Get a gift card with a bridal design for at least $50 and package it in a larger box rather than in a card (lots more fun that way!). My favorite wedding gift to give is to fill a boot sized box with one of every kind of spice in the grocery aisle.
You could either get something for the baby AND get a gift card, or just get a gift card. I never had a gift registry because we didn't really have a need for anything. We each had enough things already. You could ask them if there's anything they really need. I had a bridal shower after I got married, and all the church ladies gave me cleaning supplies. That actually helped, because I didn't have to buy any for a LONG time. And no, gift registries AREN'T for those who are already shacked up. They already have what they need. I never had a registry because I wanted people to get what they wanted to give us. We didn't shack up, either.
By having no registries, I'm hinting that we want money for our honeymoon. Cash is always good.
Take a Target gift card. It can be used for anything.
Most likely it is monetary.
Not at all, my husband and I received gifts up until about 3 weeks after the wedding. People were still sending gifts to the house. It was nice of them. I dont think, though, that you should give them something for the baby. This is their wedding not their baby shower or baby's party. Get them something for them as a couple or even for their house. Just because they're not registered doesnt mean they dont want or need any gifts. It just means they're not gonna be pushy enough to directly tell people "I want you to get me this, this, and this, and not any gift you really want to get me."
Dun get them something becos you have to... get it becos you really mean it... Does it matter what they think? Most importantly, do you want to give them something...
you should get some gift vouchers so they can get wot they want.
don;t get something for the baby, it is the parents who are getting married. it's your cousin so i guess you know them, you could get them a little something that will match the decor in their house, of a gift certificate for a department store, everyone needs things form time to time. you could always ask him or her what they would like.... just give them a quick call and say " you've not list, is there something special you wanted?".
DO NOT get something for their baby, get something like a gift card or bed sheets, towels. think something you can never have enough of.
It means the want Cash. If they have a baby they probably need $$ more than housewares. If you are strapped for cash why don't you offer babysitting, free for you great for them.
I'd just give them some money. You really can't go wrong with money.
You really have to take a gift ... I don't like wedding lists .... they are basically begging lists. But I wouldn't advise a gift for the baby ... this is their day not the babies. I doesn't have to be big just something to show you were thinking of them on their special day ... !!!
If they have no wedding list, it is highly likely they want money. It's rude to ask for it, so couples prefer not to ask, and don't have a list, especially if they've been living together. If they wanted gear for the house, they'd have put out a list to make sure they get what they want. I'm speaking from experience, so I hope I'm right!
Gifts are not required. I would get something for the three of them.