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wedding gift list inside wedding invitation, good idea or not?

I have made the cards for my wedding and will be setting up a list at a local store. The problem is i feel that putting a card inside is like saying 'heres an invitation to our wedding, and this is what we want for a present' on the otherhand my partner said that it would be a good idea - as we may end up with lots of toasters. I just realy wanted to know what people think, or would do them selfs. Me and my partner have always struggled with money even though we both work - so the wedding list will be full of things that people could afford, rather than the expensive stuff. The most important thing is that our family and friends are their to share our special day with us. Many thanks

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It seems kind of tacky to me, so I wouldn't do it. I'd rather give them to people seperately.
Can't you do an online one - then they take the items off as they are purchased. Then you just put a card with the link into the invite.
Most people now put a list out, ordinarily people will put money in the card. Good luck to you both.
i dont think it is a good idea. just send the invitations.
That idea is would be the biggest NO NO you could do. Please, please, please don't do it. If people want to know what to give you they'll ask but you NEVER bring up the subject of gifts.
Despite what others may say, I think that it is a good idea....one of the hardest things to do is to try and think of what to buy for a wedding gift, so to have a bit of a pointer is a very good idea.
I know someone who did a list for a certian store for their wedding, and people could go online and put in a code to see what was brought and what was left, I think it's a good idea as people get to choose, but remember they can still get you a present of their choice if they don't want to get you anything from the list. Congratulations and good luck for the wedding :)
since when has getting married been about gettin loads of stuff from ur guests?? u should let ppl get u what they think is a nice gift for u both. not just what u can fill ur home with
it a good idea but i wouldnt do it it would look rly tacky and some people mighten have the money for the gift and might only be able to aford a cheap 1
I think it's okay to include cards that say where you are registered but a list, come on. no.
I think it's very tacky to include it in the invite, sending it with the invite is saying you think their gift is just as important as them attending. Set up a registry, don't include the info in the invite - people WILL ask where you are registered. That is info that needs to be passed by word of mouth.
I think it is completely normal to put a card that says you are registered at a certain store. It is helpful to guest. If you don't then it forces guest to ask your family where you are registered and you may end up with a ton of things you have no interest in and don't know where to return them. The guest can always chose to buy you what they want there is no rule saying they HAVE to go shop off the list. Congratulations and Good Luck!!!
The wedding invitation is not for the gift list ...thats why they have bridal showers. Most people at the wedding will give money. Than you can buy the things you want yourself. The ones that decide to buy a gift may not pay attention to the list anyway.I work I the wedding industry and I find that kinda tacky...
Honestly? Don't Put The List In The Cards Because It Just Makes U Seem Ur Inviting Them So They Buy U Things..No Offence. Family And Friends Normally Talk About The Wedding Gifts So I Doubt U'll Be Getting Loads Of Toasters. I Would Let People Make Their Own Choices Im Sure Ull Get Everything On Ur List Without Having To Ask Ppl. (: Congratulations On Ur Wedding x
have your bridesmaids put them in the invites to the bridal shower. lot less tacky.
For me it is a good idea since it is your wedding day and you will be receiving the gifts you want and really need. Other people already done that, some register their names on line and put the links on the invitation. I will do the same if I will be having my church wedding.
Hi The last couple of weddings Ive been to i have received a wedding gift list enclosed too, on the good side yep its great at least you receive things you truly want and people are always looking for ideas on what gift to get you. But on the other side Some people feel it is a bit cheeky and sometimes people don't have much money to spend on a gift and the feel obliged too. Hope this helps : )
No, I wouldn't do it. And if you've struggled with money, you know why and that is why your asking on here to confirm. I too have never been well off, and hate getting the lists of things people want. Most of the time, I can't afford what they put, or can't find it or worry that tons of others will get the same thing. I think gift list are tacky all the way around. Be it at a store or online or on a list. Let people choose themselves. It is a gift.
I don't think it's a good idea. My cousin did this a couple of years ago and I remember everyone wasn't happy about it as they chose an expensive store and expensive gifts. Let your guests decide for themselves what they are going to give. When my husband and I got married, we asked for money as we had been living together for a couple of years and had everything. I had heard of other couples doing a money tree at the reception.
It is not best to put it in with invites. Wait for people to ask for the list if they wish to buy a present. We ended up with money off most people.
I don't really think it's a bad idea, specially if you have just moved into a house or something. Theres nothing worse than having something that you dont want and then there is the part where you lie about how much you like it. As long as you don't make the note forceful, maybe suggest that if you would like to give a gift then here are some suggestions. People have to be very stupid to think it's rude! Everyone knows you take gifts to a wedding and everyone knows you always get something you don't really want. Have a great day by the way!
Hi there, a few people i know have put the card inside the invitation that has details of where they are registered. I dont think there is a problem, its better than having people not know what to get you or like you say ending up with 12 toasters lol. I think i will be putting my card inside the invitation, that way there is no mix up and everyone knows what you want. Edit: Hmmm im not sure you want to put the actual list in the envelope just a card saying where your registered??? I would do this.
Having been to numerous weddings I know that people WANT to know what to get you - they are all going to buy you a gift anyway and they will want it to be something they know you want. Put it in I say. I've already had loads of people ask me if I'm having a gift list for my wedding (they want me to) so why not put it with the invitation? You can word it in a nice way like your presence is presents enough but if you'd like to buy a gift to celebrate this occasion we have supplied some options. This is the 21st century - no need to beat around the bush.
Register somewhere!! That's the only way u won't end up with 2 of everything
Don't do it. An invitation is just that...inviting your friends to share your joy. No mention of gifts should be made. (Technically, it is even incorrect to specify "no gifts, please" on an invitation.) If you are registered at certain stores, the word can be passed to guests by family and friends. The stores keep the lists updated, noting when items have been purchased from your list. Although your idea seems practical, it makes it look like you are only inviting folks to the wedding so they'll bring you a gift. Happy marriage!
Hell no, not a good idea. You can register with a store, and when they go to the store they will be shown what you have registered for. Any large department store will offer this service, and it would be less offensive. Most gifts at weddings are of monetary nature, if you start listing items you just may get tons of toasters. If your partner is a guy, learn not to listen to any suggestions from him, men are notorious for making bad decisions. Tell the guest you are registered at the nearest bank.LOL Good luck, and have fun at your wedding.
I don't think it's tacky to put a small card in the invite to let people know where you're registered. just don't put a list of the gifts you're looking for, that's too obvious.
I think it's OK to do that but that is what bridal showers are for so maybe if they didn't get a invitation to the shower then it would be OK to put the registry announcement in it. Walmart gives one and so does JCPenney's. But if you had a shower and people came to it they don't need it in their invitation. It would look like your wanting more. So I say send them if you didn't have a shower or send them to people who didn't get an invitation to the shower.
Personally I also would not do it. The message you want to give is that you would be really happy if your friends came to support you on your special day and that your wedding is NOT about the presents. You could always send people the list if they ask separately.
It's in extremely poor taste to include, atach or even say "gifts" on an invitation. Secondly, a registry is a suggestion of gifts and NOT a gift list. It seems to me that you got it all wrong. No one is obligated to give you what you want and it's extremely rude to include such things as coupons and gist registry information on an invitation. It's absolutly NOT appropriate, but heck! nowadays everything goes with rude, inconsiderate, tacky , greedy couples. I would NEVER attend a wedding that gives me "gift list" on an invitation, but again, everyone in my social circle knows better than that. Good luck
Do not include it. I can understand that your fiance' is thinking it would be easier to do it that way - and no offense it is a guy thing to think that way. What I would suggest is to make a list of all the places you are registered at - print it on a nice sheet(s) of paper and give them to your Parents, your FILs, your Bridal Party and if you have a wedding website or blog add the list to that. I would just list it as ideas/suggestions/registry lists
Well, people are going to get presents! Wait until you are asked, and just let them know where the list is, it is usual these days, you just to the store or online to view the list, and as something is brought, it is taken off the list.
hi went to jcpenny where I'm registered and they told me to put a card in the invitation where we are registered but I'm not going to because its tacky.
DON'T DO IT. It is poor manners to include your registry information in the invitation. If anyone asks tell them "We are registered at xxx store" and make sure your family and wedding party know so if they are asked, they can pass along the information verbally.
Tell everyone you are registered at Exxon, Mobil and Shell. Get some Gas cards!!!!!
not a good idea its kind off cheeky
I don't like getting them in the wedding invitation. I'd rather ask them where they're registered. I think the cards are maybe alright in the shower invite, but not the wedding invite.
Resist the temptation to put those cards in the invitation! Most people will either give you money or they will call someone close to you and ask if you are registered. There is that other (small, thank goodness) group who will give something that you have never wanted, will never use, and might know even know what it is. Those people either re-gifted it, or give the same thing to every newlywed couple they know. They'll give that regardless of the existence of a registry. Good luck, and congratulations!
If people want to get you a gift they will ask a relative where you are registered DO NOT put it in the invitation thats very tacky! Most people will probably give you cash anyways
It is not ok to put a registry card in an invitation. It is asking for gifts, and telling the guest what to buy. It is ok to register. If someone wants to use the registry to buy a gift, they will ask you or someone from the bridal party or family, or they will walk into the local store and ask if you perchance have registered there. To avoid offense, register at more than one place. Pick one higher end department store, like Saks or Macy's and something not so high end, like Walmart or Target. And choose a selection of gifts in various price ranges. People can buy one big gift, or several small ones as they wish. I also hear you can register for gift certificates.
Isn't this just making a registry? You are not supposed to put that on the invitation. What I have read, if you want to include that in the invitation, at most, you include a separate card that reads, "... are registred at_________." Mostly, it is recommended that you let close friends and family know and they can spread the word, rather than you asking for gifts, which is a wedding "no-no."
I don't think I would do that.
I put my gift list info in with my invites. People who wanted to buy a gift did and those who didn't, didn't. I don't understand why asking for what you want / need is so taboo! Do what you feel is right!
Well there are two ways of looking at it. It can indeed look tacky and pushy or on the otherhand helpfull It is very common these days to put a list into the invite! When i sent out my invites mum had typed up little notes saying that we arent expecting any gifts but if people would like to give us something then money towrds a honeymoon!!! So what you could do is still put the list into the wedding invite with a little note saying that you arent expecting any presents but if people feel that they want to buy you something then there is a list of ideas GOODLUCK
Hi. I am also getting married and this is what we are doing: First off, it's considered VERY poor taste to mention gifts or registries in wedding invitations. It's like saying you expect a gift in return for their attendance. If your guests want to give you a gift, they will either send you money or they will contact you or your friends/family to find out where you are registered. However, some guests might not know better and you could end up with stuff you don't want. So to solve this problem, we got a free website and created a Registry page. In our case, we did not want gifts or money (this is our second marriage and we already have everything we need). So we put links to our favorite charities for donations. On the invitations, we put the website address at the bottom. Our guests can access the website and get additional details on the wedding, including info for out-of-town guests, dress code, registry, and other fun stuff. The Registry page is subtle (a subcategory in another page) and clearly states that while their presence is present enough, if they so chose, this is where we are registered. This way, it doesn't sound like it's expected. You can create a free website through TheKnot.com. If you haven't already, get registered at one or two department stores and place links on your website to those stores' registry pages. Hope this helps!
Gift registry. Do that! :) Register for your gifts. If you aren't familiar with that----go to any department store.....or target...pretty much anywhere and get a gift registry together. It's when you scan what you'd like and they keep it in their system so that when people go to that store, they can print out your registry and see what it is that you need. In the invite, you can say "We are registered at _________ and _________ "...and this will guide people to the places you're registered, which in turn, will guide them to the things you scanned and VOILA! You will get things you need and your guests will be pleased with what they get you because it's something they KNOW you are in need of!! :):):) Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!
Check out drawmyplace.com - you upload a photograph of a building - your home / their home or some landmark etc and they will draw it for you. Its a truly unique and thoughtful gift idea?
My cousin got married 2 years ago and did this,everyone was completely offended because the place they got married cost a fortune for drinks etc and in the end they had to borrow money off my mum and dad to be able to pay for their honeymoon. To me,its cheeky but hey,go for it if its for you. I got married last September and we told everyone we didnt want anything,in the end we settled for thomas cook vouchers which have paid for this years holiday