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We're trying to sort out our wedding invitation list, while we want as many people there as we can, we are both pretty poor and our parents cannot help financially for the wedding. Would it be bad form to invite only the friends we know, without their wives, boyfirend/partners etc? At £25 per head, it seems a bit too much for us to pay for some food for someone we dont know. Im thinking of people like work colleugues and wider friends who's partners we have never met, not family members. I should say, we're having and afternoon tea rather than sit down meal: sandwiches, cakes, tea/coffee, victorian china cups and saucers, cake stands, some wine, champaigne for toasting. The whole event is only going on until 7pm at the latest. So what do you think? Perhaps we just shouldnt invite them at all then?

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1. NO!! You cannot invitie one person and not heir spouse thats just bad manners, and youre risking offending the person too!! ...Sorry.
2. Just invite people you know and are important to you. It's your day. People that don't know you or anyone other than their partner would feel lost anyway.
3. Telling one person to go and not their spouse is just bad manners. you could say on the invitations $x/person
4. I think not many would show up if you did your invitations that way, or they would show with their s/os and your count would be off. Better to do some more math, or reseach on your cost options, that sounds high to me for a tea....
5. If you aren't going to invite the husbands/wives, then I wouldn't invite those people at all. Nobody wants to go to a wedding without a date, especially if they would've brought one if they could.
6. I have struggled with this issue for our wedding, too. Unfortunately, it is considered very bad etiquette to invite one person but not their spouse. I think that if you are trying to keep costs to a minimum, keep it small. If someone gets upset with you for not inviting them (assuming they know it is a very small wedding), then they aren't very good friends. Best wishes for your wedding!
7. My fiance was invited to a wedding without me. I was not in any way offended. I understand the high costs and the fact that the bride or groom had never even met me. I personally see no problem with it, although some people do.
8. I'm sorry but you have to invite the other half too. If you cannot do this, then I would not invite that person at all.