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My husband gave me a list of things to do to prepare my body for pregnancy but I don't want to do them?

my husband and i decided we would like to start trying soon. i would love to have a baby this year. i'm 22 yrs old and i read the healthiest babies are born to mothers 17-22. so i dont want to leave it too late. especially as my husband is a bit older. anyway he's a nutritonist and he gave me a list of things to do, he wants me to do this for a whole six months even before we start trying..... lol 1. I can't eat any junk food, which means no chocolate :'( Also fast food, red meat, table sugar, salt, coffee and alcohol are all off limits. 2. I'm only allowed to eat organic food and I have to eat 8+ servings of fruits & veges everyday and 3+ servings of fish every week..... (i *hate* fish) 3. I have to take folic acid , multi vitamin, fish oil supplements 4. I have to exercise 6 days a week. My husband also wants me to gain 10 lbs because I'm only 100, but with the diet & exercise.... how is that possible?? 5. I have to "cut off" my friend who's husband is a smoker. I'm literally not allowed to see in person until the baby is born. 6. I have to throw away all my makeup and skincare products (because of the "toxic chemicals"). I'm only supposed to use toothpaste, soap, shampoo, and a few other essentials. 7. we have to hire a cleaner to clean the house because I can't touch cleaning products (chemicals again). 8. and a weird one: I'm not allowed to go to the gas station to fill up petrol in my car.. lol ive just summarized it , the actual thing is pages! Do you think this is a bit over the top? By the way my husband already has two grown perfectly healthy sons and I bet his ex wife never had to go through any of this.... :'(

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1. Goodness me, yes it is over the top. I also hear stress is bad for conceiving, and with all these demands, you will be extremely stressed! Things like not going to the gas station are just ridiculous. If he is like this now, how will he be when you are actually pregnant? Will he chain you to his wrist to keep you safe? It is WAY to much.
2. wtf, its your body do what you want to. that is way over the top just stop taking birth control pills without him knowing or something Lol, or just right out tell him that it a joke with what he is asking. and also fish is not good for pregnant women due to the mercury in it and should only be eaten once every fortnight
3. Good grief!I'm sorry but he sounds very controlling to me.You don't have to do anything that you're not comfortable with.Btw,has he written himself a list of instructions because if he hasn't I'd be putting pen to paper if I were you..
4. is he helping or controlling you put your foot down and go through the list and say what YOU want to do its over th top bossy and controlling nip it in the bud berore he takes over your life and leeves you a sniviling wreck
5. here are the ones you should do, 1 2 maybe 3, and 8 number 4 half it, do exersise 3 times, you dont want to exaust yourself, number 4 no dont cut her off, but ask her husband to not smoke around you for the sake of the child, he will understand and will probably smoke outside instead, number six, dont throw them away, but put them all in a box, and give them to your mum or dad, to hold on to, so you dont get tempted to use them, number seven is just stupid, wear gloves or get the lazy bugger to do the cleaning you aint no wench, question one though, you cant NOT eat junk food but cut down on the amount you do, number two not only organic but alot of it should be organic not 8 maybe 3-4 but you may want to go for 5 a day wich is fine 3 servings of fish is fine, unless you dont like fish then dont, and veges can be encluded in your 5 a day or 3-4 servings, number three yes take vitamins, but dont over do it, only the vital vitamins your body will need, because your child will be absorbing the natural vitamins and you will need to be replacing them, but no folic acid and no fish oil, unless you have to, when cooking a specific dish
6. I'm tipping that is why she is his "ex" wife. He probably drove her crazy. What is he thinking. This is really over the top, a joke. I've never heard anything like it. OMFG. Is he like this with other things??? What have you got yourself into??? The best thing you can do is just look after yourself. Start being healthy by eating right, drinking lots of water and doing some exercise. Definitely start taking folic acid tablets daily. Once you are pregnant you should stay away from smokers but only whilst they are smoking. No 6 is just ridiculous. No 7 and 8 I know where he is coming from thinking about you breathing in toxic fumes. I'm sure you can clean and fill up you're car without doing too much inhaling. Its never harmed anyone I know. Good luck with your journey. Lets hope its an enjoyable one. And about your age, don't stress my dear, you have plenty of time in you yet.
7. This is utterly ridiculous. The only thing that is important is #3. It's good for everyone to exercise, but the amount that DOCTORS recommend for pregnant women is 120 minutes per week of GENTLE exercise. Fish is good for you, but you can get what you need from fish oil (get the kind that dissolves in your intestine -- enteric -- then you won't be burping fish all day! They also have kinds that the fishy taste/smell is removed from.) Staying away from fast food is a good idea, actually, but some red meat is good for iron production, which you need if you're pregnant; chocolate, the dark kind, has been found to be very good for you! Meet your friend away from her husband, or request that he not smoke WHEN you get pregnant. If he's willing to buy you only organic food, he should know that there are organically-derived, earth-friendly cleaning products you can switch to (but heck, if he's willing to spring for housecleaning, that's a drudgery off of your mind, isn't it?) Everything else is crap; the "pthalates" he's probably worried about in your makeup are NOT proven to cause harm (PreSeed, the sperm-friendly lubricant that many women have used successfully to become pregnant, contains pthalates!) All in all, I'm wondering if this is about you becoming pregnant at all or your husband being a control freak. What would be better for your marriage, in my honest opinion, is NOT having a baby anytime soon, but getting marriage counseling together instead, so that you can both work on his issues about this. If he is unwilling to go for marriage counseling, and unable to see that he has a problem here, your entire married life (and your child's life) will be under the thumb of a domineering individual with a potential psychological issue.
8. This is not just "a bit over the top." Its way over the top and ridiculous. He sounds like a control freak, which explains the ex. I feel sorry for you, and any future children you might have. Sounds like you have little freedom to do what you want. :o(
9. oh god why is he soooo bothered about ur weight gain....actually u r having a very good weight...u can follow those but not the whole at once....u should change ur diet little by little...and if u strictly follow this i bet u will be the healthiest female on earth...good luck and baby dust.....
10. This is ridiculously insane. Pure insanity! I would have to laugh right in my husbands face if he threw such a ridiculous list of nonsense at me. Is it fair to you to follow this list of crap because he "said so" all the while you be miserable? Eating fish while you hate it? Yea fricken right! Don't eat it, that's nuts. Of course you can clean. How many married women out there, if they stopped cleaning, would live in filth because no one else would clean? Pregnant women and women ttc clean all the time lol. Getting rid of your makeup? Utter insanity too. And not being able to fuel up by yourself just takes the cake. Unreal! I have a feeling we know why he has an ex wife. He sounds like a control freak. You need him to be your husband, not your father. Do what you want to do on the list, because you want to and because it's beneficial to you and your health. Just eat healthy and do some daily exercises, cut out smoking, drinking, and some caffeine (if applicable) and take a prenatal vitamin. He should be taking vitamins too, and avoiding hot baths or saunas, alcohol...perhaps you should make him a list? What's fair is fair, right? Just be honest and tell him these things sound a bit silly and unnecessary. Have him speak to your OBGYN about this list and see how far that goes. Lots of luck honey :)