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whats his game!? guys especially but anyone could really use your advice!!!?

Ok basically there this guys i REALLY like, its being going on for ages, about a year!? but we've got a lot closer and talk quite a bit, I was like 90% sure he liked me aswell, he complimented me a lot, and I heard him say to people he liked me, his friends suddenly started talking to me, and I know it sounds stupid but its like we have a "connection" we fitted so well together. So it gets towards the end of term nothings happened, through exams we didnt talk so much, but i caught him looking at me during an exam and he said hi to me a couple of times...so im thinking ok ...prom night i've gotta make a move.. during that time he writes something on facebook about 'shes moved on :( ' as far as I knew he hadn't got/ had a girlfriend for as long as I'd liked him...suddenly he writes one, 'cant be bothered with you no more so f*** you' I know he'd had a big fight with some of his friends, but could he be talking about me? he deletes the other status about 'shes moved on' at the same time as he writes the other one? I spoke to my friend about it and she said she'd heard rumours he'd been out with this other girl but ages ago, i have her as a friend on facebook and I remember he did aswell, but shes not on his friends list anymore.. prom night.. he completely blanks me for most of the night, I see him talking to loads of girls, whispering in there ears, he says hi once and talks to me a bit, he says proms crap theres nohing to do, and i say he should dance and then literally 5 seconds later he starts dancing with my best mate!? making a move on her, and asking for her number, he dances with another of my friends aswell, and quite a few other girls! Now im thinking I probably should have talked to him more but the way he was acting!? I'm worried he thinks I don't like him because I didn't talk to him, and through exams as well but there just weren't any good opportunities he's always with his mates which is just itimidating because im shy! So guys help me please!!! :S im so confused!! whats your interpretations? thanks :)

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1. As a guy, I would advise you to look at this situation from an outsider's point of view, and not the view of someone who has a crush on him. If he is flirting with multiple girls and not talking to you in full conversation or ignores you at prom, then he is most likely not a good choice for you. Don't be hard on yourself for not talking to him; he probably didn't even notice. A guy who flirts with multiple women is, on average, a simple but sad guy to figure out; that is, if you two get into a relationship, he will continue flirting with other girls, and will use you until he's bored and then will spit you back out. My girlfriend's brother is very similar to the man you have described. He has taken advantage of many women at the same time, all behind his girlfriend's back, for the year and a half they were together. She caught on eventually and I'm sure was hurt. But the girls still love being around him because he's good looking. They don't know his dark side, just as you don't know this man's. Look for a man who is willing to commit to just you. He may be less good looking, but he will provide for you and will protect you. Keep in mind, however, that this kind of man is harder to find and requires a heightened level of careful hunting than the good looking flirt. It may require you even to wait a year or more. But what is time to finding happiness and safety?