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Coworker's attitude driving me up the wall, how to cope?

I work in a small department at a local grocery, and everyone shares the workload, so there's not much I can do to avoid this woman. Even though we often have a daily list of things to be done for the day, she ignores it and only wants to work on our floor display case. This usually leaves me (and whoever else working that day) to complete the list and help customers. She even snapped at me once when I asked her to help me with customers. Then later, during closing time if I'm still trying to finish up the daily list, she'll say snottily, "Are you going to help us clean or are you going to stand back there all night?" This has happened several times, and I've tried to be patient, but she keeps making these remarks to me. It ticks me off because I'm working hard while she stands around chatting with other coworkers, then suddenly I'm the one who's not doing enough. A few days ago, I had an earlier shift than usual, so I asked the closing person (not this woman) if he would like me to do any specific cleaning before I left. Before he could answer, the woman shot back with, "How long have you been working here? Don't you know what you're supposed to do?" Then the guy sided with her, like I wasn't even there, saying, "Yeah, you'd think she already knows what has to be done." That wasn't what I was asking! I didn't show it, but I was pretty upset after that.

Public Comments

1. Tell her to stop being such a c u n t.
2. you will have to speak you boss and tell him what is happening. you don't have to put up with that
3. Sorry to say but you are going to have to confront her or it will and I mean will get worse and from what you are telling me is she is pushing you more and more and more,not good not good at all. Pick the time and the place and have the right people around to witness this. Your work record stands on this so do it right,decently and in order.
4. Next time she comes to you saying stuff about how you're not helping cleaning up. Tell her that you've been working on the items off the list all day, not just working on the display case or chatting with everyone around the store. She is not the manager there for she has no right to tell you what to do. Also report the indecent about what happened with the closing person because that's against the rules as well. You're not to reprimand or put someone down in front of others also you weren't closing so the fact you asked if there something you could do to help the closing crew shows initiative and you should not be put down for trying to go the extra mile. Talk to the HR or the manager about the way this woman treats you and how you were treated by the closing person.
5. Are all the other co-workers "on her side"? Does nobody stand up for you? It doesn't bother the other workers that they have to complete the daily list while she wastes time? Find out what other people think of her and if anybody is willing to go to the boss with you and make a complaint about her. Is she any kind of supervisor over you? Has she been there longer than you? Is that why she thinks she can boss you around? You need to talk to your boss, with her in attendance at the meeting, and have the boss tell everyone who their supervisor is and what tasks are expected of them. Once it has been said out loud that she is not a supervisor and she has the same tasks to do as you have, then you have the right to snap back at her next time she speaks out against you. Your other choice, if you don't want to approach the boss, is to just tune her out and do all the work yourself. You'll have to find a way to not get upset over her antics. Just pretend you are working there alone and that she doesn't exist. If you need help with something, ask someone else - just pretend she isn't there at all. It seems like every workplace has an employee like her - you have to learn to accept them as they are or go to the boss and let him/her know how this person is behaving. Maybe they're too busy to notice what she's doing.
6. Arrrgh, that's got to be hard to listen to! This woman probably hates her job if not her life-- you are just handy. She wasn't a nicer person before you came along. Your goal has to be to change how you respond to her, not just how you act, but how you feel. Try entertaining yourself by running a head trip on her Drive her crazy by being relentlessly cheerful. Stay "respectful" but respond to her remarks as if you think she likes you. A lot. . And she's just "kidding" you. "Aw, you don't mean that do you"?" Smile and salute, saying "Yes MAM!" "What would I do if I didn't have you to keep me in line?" I promise if you can keep this up for three days in a row she will either explode or collapse. Either way, it will be fun to watch your impact on her.