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Should MIL be involved in invite list for baby shower and who to invite from her side?

To make a long story short, MIL and I are currently not on speaking terms. Basically she verbally attacked me, we're talking about talking over me loudly where I couldn't get a word in, while I was talking, yelling, over the phone, to where I had to calmly end the phone call with her 2x, telling her that I was hanging up the phone. This is a result of DH not being able to cut the cord and getting his parents involved in an issue of ours. Mommy wasn't even involved but as usual, stuck her nose in where it don't belong and turned into the helpless victim as always. Anyway, we have not spoken since and I have nothing to say to her. Me and her only speak when we see other to begin with and I'm not holding my breath on an apology. My mother is throwing my shower and told me right away she is going to still invite her, it's the respectful thing to do and this is going to be her granchild after all. I would love if MIL turned down the invite but being that she is so fake, I doubt she would not attend this. I know that she will show up, with her sugary sweet fake smile on and her low voice acting all coy like she always does. My mother is sending out invites and told me she wants to invite the same number of people from MIL's side that we are inviting from my side, which really isn't sitting well with me. My mom said she is inviting around 15 people from my side, granted I know some won't come. At first my mother said she would just give me the invites to give to my husband who could give them to MIL and she could make them out herself. I didn't like that idea, so I said what about if I ask DH and he gives me the list. I thought just inviting MIL and her immediate family from his side is ok. I asked my husband who he wanted me to invite and he said he don't know. My other option is that I already have all of the address's from her side from my wedding, so if I wanted to, I could leave even my husband out of this and just invite whoever I want from the list and give it to my mother. I could stick to just inviting her, my hubbie's grandma, MIl's sister, sister in law and 2 nieces, the 2 nieces I met like 2x, once at my wedding, so I'm guessing I'm obligated to invite them. So, what should I do?

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1. It's your party and you can invite whoever you want. If you don't get along with any of your guy's family, then don't invite them. Even though she's my "mother", I refuse to invite my mother or anyone to do with her to any of my celebrations, because I know what kind of behaviour she will carry on with. We didn't even invite her to our wedding! You should enjoy your day, and if her being there is going to interfere with that, then leave her out of it. Life is too short to surround yourself with people who make your life unhappy.