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Is it unreasonable of me to ask my girlfriend why she did not call me back all night? Without having a fight?

My long term girlfriend, whom is really acting over the top on this issue. Is not answering my calls. Last month, she went to a Family BBQ / Birthday Party back in her home town, she brought her 2 sons with her. Well, She left on Saturday morning, Around 7pm , I called her, Got no answer. Around the time I went to bed, I started to wonder if she was ok. Because She didn't call me to tell me she made it. So I called her again around 1130pm Saturday night. No answer. I left her a voice mail, that this was my second attempt. Well, the next morning, around 10am, she texts me saying " She was not igoring me, that there was a fight, all kinds of drama". I texted her back, " Why cant you just text me that your busy or something"? She responds with " LOOK, IM NOT EXPLAINING ANYTHING TO YOU". About 2 hours later, I call her, she answers the phone screaming at me that she does not want to fight with me. And that she has to get off the phone cause she's with her Family about to eat at a restaurant. Is it wrong for me to ask her why she did not call me back all night Saturday night? She asks me all the time why I miss her calls. She has even gone as far as to call my sister to question her about what I have been up to lately. I don't get why she makes me the bad guy for expecting her to return my call, or text. She as at a Party, not a business meeting, not a funeral. Am I wrong?

Public Comments

1. I think you should take the hint and back off. Give her some space and wait for her to contact you. When she does you could then ask calmly for an explanation as to why she appeared to be avoiding you. But if the women has two kids and was traveling I don't blame her for not responding to text messages. She probably has a lot going on.
2. Yes. If you are a boyfriend and check on the girlfriend you are a controlling jerk, if you are a boyfriend who does not call the girlfriend when he has been out all night, you are a jerk and dont care about her, you could have had a threesome with her mother and sister for all she knows. See how it works?
3. Just tell her when she gets back home and is in a relaxed mood. I'll say things jokingly but serious to my boyfriend so he'll drop his guard. Say "I just have to say that if I'm busy doing something and I don't answer my phone, you blow me up and even call my sister to ask where I am. And it's ok for you to ask why I didn't answer but if I ask you then you get SO angry. You know what it's like to worry about me so why don't you understand when I worry about you?"
4. This is a weird situation. even when i go to my friends house i will call my boyfriend just to let him know i made it. your girlfriend seemed to be ignoring all your calls and that is weird. was she actually with family??? if she was she was being rude to ignore you. i wouldnt put up with that, your trying to be caring and she is taking you for granted.