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LGBT: What is it with people asking stupid question about being gay?

All the time in this section you have people asking "Am I gay?" "Am I bi?" "Does s/he fancy me?" And most of them are followed with people who have kissed someone of the same gender when drunk, or maybe had a dream about sleeping with their best friend. The "Does s/he fancy me?" Questions are generally people listing a few things that friends do anyway, gay or not, to other friends (Hugs, kiss on the cheek, mock flirt....) Why, just because someone is gay do their intentions have to be sexual? Do these people really think we can answer that for them? Because writing a few lines about yourself doesn't determine your sexuality! If I was to write a paragraph about myself it would say pretty obvious things. Likely my age, maybe a goal in life, my interests or things I really like- skirts, high heels make up and lingerie (But I obviously can't be gay because I like that!) And maybe a little bit about what I want to do after college- law, politics and fashion design. What in that tells you I'm gay? None of it! Why do people need strangers over the internet to say "Yes" or "No, you're not gay" Can't people accept it themselves, it's what I had to do, and I think that process is really, really important. And is anyone else fed up with religious people spamming this forum? From us being evil, to asking whether they're "allowed" to believe in gay marriage, why are they asking us? Sorry it's long, I felt it needed to be said, and I'd do it while I was in a bad mood. The thing is, most of the advice is "Just accept it." WOW! I never thought of that, I wish someone had told me that when I was taking an overdose on my second suicide attempt. And why do you need to talk about your sexuality? Do straight people feel the need to ask if they're feeling normal things? Most of the time, no. None of my straight friends have ever brought up "Do I know if I'm straight." And we're a pretty blunt talking bunch. If you have a problem is comes out and we talk it out until it's fixed.

Public Comments

1. cause sometimes these people are the only people that they can talk to about their sexuality. ever thought of that????
2. people are just stupid XD
3. If people didn't need help the wouldn't ask. Sexuality is confusing, people need opinions from people who have most probably been in the same situation as them. I like helping them, if you don't want to help then don't click on the question. That's the reason why I'm a top contributor and your not.
4. I think its because they need confirmation of their suspicions or they just like hearing it. (or the more usual trolls and idiots lol) As for the religous nuts, they probably just have nothing else to do or actually believe in it so much so that they'd waste their time like that. But yeah your totally right :)
5. I completly i agree with you!! The questions are really stupid.....I like wearing dresses and skrits and makeup, and i have long hair so if i said no1 would think im a lesbian even though i am....and the religous people who do that just need to get a life!! Your right you have to find out for yourself and accept other people cant tell you!!!!
6. Yea true it gets old, that's why I don't really click on those type of questions anymore. **P.S. I love tokio hotel too and ur pic ha (;
7. hey smart guy some of us dnt have people to ask someone who will give a streight answer or not judge us because of this we have to go online and ask people who we dont know
8. As for the people asking naïve questions - either don't answer them or try to be kind. We are only 10 percent of the population, These are mostly kids who don't know any better who are too scared to bring this up on the out side. As for trolls and religios nuts - just report the abusive posts. This forum is self policing. Don't argue with a troll, don't reason with them - they are not interested in dialogue or learning. Yahoo can't proofread every post. Just report the abuse and move on. Once the reports get submitted the post will be removed. You'd be surprized how quickly it happens sometimes.
9. some are trolls... some want reassurance.
10. I know it's annoying, but kids aren't really told that much about the ins and outs of sexuality. Homosexuality is becoming quite trendy at the moment so tbh I think some people want to be told that they are gay/bi (mostly girls) even though they're not, which is sickening as there are kids killing themselves over being gay.
11. Some people feel the need to be reassured. We've got a bunch of teenagers that depend on the internet as a source of information using this website. The truth of the matter is, I cannot determine someone's sexuality by anything they post here, and I can't tell anyone if someone else is gay or if that other person likes them or not. I can't, and I don't. I ignore the people that ask if they're gay or not, because that question is inane. And my answer to the few people that I've paid attention to while asking "is this person gay" or "does he/she like me," is always the same: I don't know, ask him/her. Because that's the only way you're going to get the correct answer. As for religious people, some of them are genuine. Some come here and although they might seem like trolls, they are very rooted in their religious beliefs and are seriously asking why we don't believe in God or why we are who we are; they have the right to question us, as long as they don't insult us in the process. But most don't seem to understand that their questions in this forum are like anyone's questioning the proof of a God in their church, in the middle of a mass. It will anger a lot of people, they won't get god answers. It's not what they ask, it's who and where they ask the question.
12. To the lady that is the top contributor: No, that's not why. The reason you're the top contributor is that you answer a lot of questions. You're bound to get some people to agree with you. I agree about the way people stereotype gay people. I am fully bisexual, I love girls. But when I tell people, they're shocked because, "Oh, my God! But you don't look like a man at all!" To the people that ask me if I think they're gay, I usually just say, Easy- Are you turned on by people of the same sex? Anyway it's all bullcrap, I hate that our society forces us to define our sexuality by such rigid constructs. Like my friend says when he is asked if he's gay- No, I'm Sarahsexual! :P